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Hi all,

Well finally the initial barrage of communication is at a lull. He wished me good bye and a good life. All well and good but from a practical side we’ve had to communicate about the house/cat and he’s switched to cold and practical which suits me fine. He is due to leave the house on the (detail removed by Moderator) which gives me (detail removed by Moderator)to sort anything else out before the keys go back and he’s going on holiday (detail removed by Moderator) so at least he’s out of my hair. I’m just hoping that this lull lasts but I’m expecting a resurgence when he gets back after holiday – fingers crossed though. As a bonus he paid me the money he owed me. It is very sad because, I assume typically, he is very remorseful of all the things he’s done to me – he’s confessed all on facebook and doesn’t understand why I won’t let him make it better. I’d love to believe he would change but I can’t trust him to do that and I can’t get caught in this loop again. Onwards my friends x

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Well, I’m out phew!!! I know all the advice was to go no contact and I can see why but he knew where my mum lived and I worked, friends etc. I wasnt willing to give up on all those things to go cold turkey. He has been contacting me and we have seen each other. Its very hard to see him so upset but he is saying all the expected things I remain strong and determined and will not go back. Well see how the communication piece goes but for now it’s just keeping things stable and my message is clear that I cant and wont do it.. o may need to look at an injunction at some stage but for now, whilst he remains in the jointly rented property I need to keep on civil terms so he doesnt trash the house. I will still involve the police if need be. I am currently safe and away for the weekend, my phone on silent. We’ll see, I’m sure harder days are coming but I’ll take what I can for now. Thanks for your support xx

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Hello all,

I just wanted to clarify that he is a competitive shooter, hes been borrowing a gun (kept with that person by law) to shoot at competitions. He applied for his own competitive rifle licence a while ago. I just knew it would act as an intimadation if I stayed so knew I had to move and fast. As i say I will feal with this when im out and settled. One thing at a time.

Wishing ypu all a safe and peaceful weekend x

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Hi,
Back on for the escape as planned. I’m not even sure how to start checking about tracking – I’ll need to research this but unlikely to find time. Any pointers gratefully received.

Thanks for the comments re the gun, my priority at the moment is to get me out and safe. The licence has not been approved yet and may take up to six months, I need to deal with this completely seperately as at the moment I have far too much on and too much worry but I take your comments on board.

Thanks for your support, it really does mean a lot xx

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I may need to rethink my exit plan, sounds like hes not going to be out for the day now. Really wanted to avoid the confontation and avoid his eflast ditch efforts to undermine me. Makes it complicated with friends coming to help with the move, puts them in a poopy position. The one time I actually need him tonignore me and do his own thing!!! I shall have a think.

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Wow, you guys have some great advice thank you so much. I know what youre saying about involving the police and im sure youll think im being naive but I think this will enrage the situation significantly. Its tricky because hes going for a gun licence and if i involve the police unnecessarily it will scupper his chances of getting the licence. I want to keep this as my get out of jail card if he gets out of hand. I need to keep things as calm as possible.

Annoyingly we are getting on ok at the moment but I think thats more down to me towing the line and not challenging the situation. Im quietly getting on with my plans.

Still scared but excited too.

Hugs to you all xx

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