Yellowdaisy

[Yellowdaisy]

Thank you for your advice it’s so true that your mind plays tricks and pushes all the good memories to the front. Writing down all the abuse and remembering it again is really traumatic but maybe it needs to be done to remind myself.
I’ve got a good support network and hah I’m so grateful for. Luckily he has no way of contacting me I’m not on social media now either. So the only way is where I live which I’ll be moving out of soon so that’s not be an option either.
He did wish me well with the pregnancy I think he was just move upset for him rather than me because he knows this pregnancy means he can’t be with me anymore. Again it’s about him.
Just hard when they play at your heart string and when your an empath it’s hard to ignore someone you love and ignore your automatic respond to try and make other people feel better but then he always made me feel worse so need to remember that.

Thanks again x

[Yellowdaisy]

Thank you that really helps. I spent years doing the typical trying to leave him although going back because you love them but I gradually over the past 2-3 years was getting ready to leave and then I had a good year working on myself having therapy going gym etc and didn’t entertain any man on that time so I did spend time trying to grieve and it’s easy to think your doing well when you have no contact at all then you see them and reassure you haven’t moved on as far as you thought it’s crushing. I have no idea how I’m going to even begin to stop loving him.
My baby’s dad is an old friend I’ve known for over 10 years and we wont be together we will need to co parent as I’m clearly not over my ex.

Any tips on stopping the thoughts of looking back and seeing it through rose tinted glasses?
Like you said there’s no quick fix so I don’t think there is just didn’t realise it would take this long.

Thanks again! X

[Yellowdaisy]

That’s so helpful thank you so much guys! So reassuring to know your not on your own! xXx

[Yellowdaisy]

I will look that up. Thank you for your words it’s so helpful to speak to people who actually understand as friends and family who have never been through it don’t get it and think I’m ‘weak’ for letting him abuse me and going back. So thanks again!

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