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Hi anushka,

Firstly, I am so sorry you are in this situation and I am sure there will be many supportive people on here who have valuable information to help you out. In the meantime though, you could also contact your local women’s aid group. They have been an absolute godsend for me and have given me so much help.

It took me nearly (detail removed by Moderator) months to get out of my relationship so give yourself time and plan ahead. Just making the decision to leave in the first place is a massive step. I was tied into a tenancy agreement too, but there are ways out of them and you don’t have to do it alone. Women’s aid can probably guide you in the best way to go about it and give you any support you might need. There might also be other local groups that can help you out, so I’d check them (when its safe to do so – always make sure you clear your internet history). You can also call the helpline and they can give you guidance.

I hope this helps in some way and I hope you manage to get through this. Everyone on here is super supportive so if you keep directing your questions, I am sure you will get some answers.

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KIP, I think this is such a good idea. It is so hard to find support and to find a group of people where you don’t have to explain everything or justify anything because the other people in the room understand. I think its also nice to run the group where you can meet and just talk about every day things. Its great because everyone understands, everyone knows what you’ve been through. I think there is so much power in unity. This is exactly the kind of thing I’ve been looking for in my community but with not much luck. I wish you all the best in getting a group going!

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Hello KIP, I read Living with the dominator and it was an eye opener. Thank you for the recommendation.

Starsindarkenss, I finally took the step to email my supervisor and ask for an extension. My deadlines are really soon but I just can’t handle the pressure. Every time I’m on my own, my mind circles back to dealing with everything that I have been through. I hope you manage to cope with yours too. The Women’s Aid officer I have been speaking to has offered to get in touch with the university as well. I hope that you can figure out a way around your exams, the added pressure and academic expectations when we can’t even think straight is so difficult. I completely understand your situation.

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Hi maryanne and KIP,

Thanks for your messages, I really appreciate them. I’ve booked a session for next (detail removed by Moderator) and I’ve spent two hours writing down everything I can remember about the abuse, or at least everything I could write about. I feel better already. I don’t feel good, but I feel better. Thank you both for your help.

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