Arky123

[Arky123]

Wow guys. Thankyou for replying.

@sad and alone. You wrote that like it was my words.

I was so house proud before had a passion for it.
I still am but ….
What I mean is excited to buy new cleaning products lamp shades. New photo frames etc. now I don’t bother. As I get told I’m too much!!!!im stomping around when cleaning.
I’m annoying him

But (detail removed by Moderator) I was told I don’t do no cleaning haha. He doesn’t know how to clean. He “tidies”

I get told on my day of. Make sure the house is clean by time I’m home. Make sure dinner is on.

I said the other week. (detail removed by Moderator).

Then he will turn up at house. Without telling me he on train and he walks in and says where you hiding him where is he.
This is supposedly a joke ? But he don’t laugh. I don’t laugh as I feel sick.
He likes to turn up and surprise me like he gonna catch me in act.
But I have to call him when I leave work. I have to phone him on way home. I have to phone him on lunch break and tea break if I don’t there will b consequences

SICK OF THIS CRAP

[Arky123]

Totally understand how you feel. When I ask him to leave over the years.
He says the children are coming with him if that’s the case.
Totally trapped totally know how you feel and we’re in the right for saying it.
It’s just making us all as a family hurt for longer.

What I’ve come to terms with in past few days is… once my youngest is 18 then he will officially end it as we hate each other that much he definitely wants to go. But it has to be he’s terms. When I’m old and grey and probably put on a few pounds. And then I’m useless to any man then he will be happy to leave me. But the thing is I never want to ever go near a man after him anyways. But has to be he’s terms and he wants to rule my life. He’s control.

I Just want to be free.

Dying for the day when i can be myself and free.

Hope you find a end to your hurt and can give some guidance to us xx

[Arky123]

When I enter work I am the most vibrant co worker and make everyone laugh and have the most banter all day. As soon as I leave I feel sick as going home to him.

I’ve lost myself.

I’ve I’m ever myself in front of him.
I get taken the mick out of. And am stupid.

Why can’t I be myself.

[Arky123]

Just want to run away. But my children would be heart broken.
I’m so stuck in this situation. I can’t get out. How do people get away from narcissistic violet men.
He has got me stuck so bad.
I don’t want to leave house unless it is the school run my parents house or to work.
I’m so scared got myself in this little Ruck and can’t get out of it.

[Arky123]

Me
Too. Described it to a T. So sad as don’t know how to start a post like you did.
It’s true. Don’t know how to get out unless getting messy and in the end it doesn’t work out for us. We will look like the horrible ones.

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