Cherryblue

[Cherryblue]

Hi both, thank you so much for responding, I’m going to get the Lundy Bancroft book. Also Camel I think you are right about boundaries, I think I know it’s over but I’m frightened to make that final step. I guess partly because that’s when all the difficult stuff starts like selling the house, I’ve also been really worried he would hurt himself as he has suggested he would in the past. I guess it’s cowardly in a way, whilst we are having space I don’t have to deal with all of this.

[Cherryblue]

Thanks everyone for your comments, it really helps. It’s all very confused at the moment, I think I need to get him to stay somewhere else for a while, so that I can try and get my head straight. I feel so sad that it has come to this.

[Cherryblue]

Thanks Headspinning. I think that’s part of the problem for me, I’d decided I wanted out. But then he didn’t have anywhere to go, and it’s been left in this strange and confused situation where I’m trying to work out whether what he is saying and doing is genuine or not. Sometimes I feel guilty that he is trying and I’m not, I’m not sure what I am waiting for. I don’t know what would make me think it will be better in the future.

I think perhaps you are right and I should seek counselling too.

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