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    • #121767
      ConfusedandHurt
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      Had a bit better day today, had contact with appropriate people and have a little bit more positivity surrounding the whole situations.
      I know I’m a far way from this ever being over but a small step in the right direction.

    • #121723
      ConfusedandHurt
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      Thanks kip, I called them last night to report it
      After having spoke to a close friend.
      Police will visit at some point today for a statement.
      I just need him to leave me alone.

    • #120868
      ConfusedandHurt
      Participant

      Hey, i can sympathise with you, I was in an abusive relationship, got out but went back as I believed he would change, months went on with more manipulative behaviour making me feel like I was hindering and not helping and always made to feel like everything was somehow my fault. It took for further domestic assault and another person getting authorities involved before I could really understand what all of my family and friends had been saying to me.
      I’ve now changed my contact details, deactivated all of my social media accounts (after blocking and deleting) and gave myself a few days and even just some time without any contact at all has allowed me to refocus on myself a bit.
      I know there will be ups and downs but it’s about remembering why you left in the first place xx

    • #120292
      ConfusedandHurt
      Participant

      I appreciate everything you’s are saying and advising, there has been a little bit of contact this past week and its just made me feel that I know I’m making the right decision. I think I also need to cut out some other people, mutual friends as they are not helping things. I’m not losing friendships, I’ve decided to think of it as having a cleanse.
      I have no idea what the outcome of the(detail removed by Moderator) will be and I’m trying to not think of it. Keeping myself busy etc.
      I’ve blocked him on all social media platforms, I’ve blocked his number on my phone. Its my only way forward I think. It hurts not seeing him but when I think of how he treated me and what he said to me I know that it’s not right and that I deserve better.

    • #119831
      ConfusedandHurt
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      So turns out his case has been deferred and he has had special bail conditions set, so I’ve got another (detail removed by Moderator) of hoping he just leaves me alone.
      My family have been amazing support but its just the loneliness.
      He has completely broke my trust in others, I just wish it was all dealt with (detail removed by Moderator) coz then at least I would have had some closure 🙁

    • #119740
      ConfusedandHurt
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      So over the past few days, things have gotten progressively worse, I’ve had family members tryin to influence me and being guilt tripped making me feel as though I deserved what I got
      He continues to call me and while I don’t want to get him into any more trouble the messages he sends me are terrible. He is being so derogatory. I feel so low, I have asked my gp to reefer me for further support and I got a letter sayin someone will be in touch from (detail removed by moderator), my housing officer had been amazing she is going to assess me for personal alarm systems and I’ve got good support around me.
      But even just (detail removed by moderator) he called me, I was in bed with a migraine and he accused me of being with someone else.
      I have had to go thru the process of blocking him as he is asking what am I going to say (detail removed by moderator) etc
      I just want him to leave me alone, its hard enough feeling the way I do, never mind the nastiness and the constant put downs from the person who said that he loves me.
      Will find out (detail removed by moderator) then what the next stages are but I am done with him and his antics. He was the person who helped me to build up my confidence and he had been the one to rip it all away.
      I actually feel like getting together all the Christmas gifts he got me and sending them back to him out of spite.

    • #101932
      ConfusedandHurt
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      So, after a weekend of not knowing what to do and being very indecisive, I found out (detail removed by moderator) that he has been lying to me all weekend and that he has now been severely abusive towards other people in the family. I spoke to my own family and have listened to their concerns and have managed to get most of belongings from the flat. The flat was a shared in both our name, but I have just left as it is now too much strain emotionally.
      I am devastated but my family are here for me.

       

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