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Hi Kip,
I think I have read some excerpts from those books when looking up terms I have read other people using on this forum and beginning to understand the pattern both from information and other ladies experiences.
I worry about counselling as I know the records can be made available to court if I proceed that far. I have been reading the report to court booklet given to me by my WA lady and it says in it that it can be viewed as Pre trial counselling and almost advantageous to me If I go to court. I’m finding it really difficult to talk around these subjects due to the forum rules and give enough information for you to understand but not enough for it it be removed.
Thank you for your reply… I have been managing to speak to my husband a bit today after reading about various things but it is like I can understand it and see the pattern and file it away in my box of information but I can’t open the box of what happened and assimilate them together as I’m still making excuses for him. And to merge the two together and admit to what he has done to me and my children is too painful. The box is overflowing though so when I talk I can’t help tears coming but won’t cry if that makes sense. I never thought I would tell authorities about what he has done yet here I am and it all feels so much worse and I’m so frightened that proceeding to the next step will tip me over the edge. He has already been bad mouthing me to people I know and telling them stuff and denying it. I am told these are the typical actions of a perpetrator but he has got away with so much I feel he is untouchable and to put myself through these next steps will prove pointless as he will walk away and I will be left still hiding away like I am now. I feel like I have been teetering on the edge for the past few weeks waiting to see my WA lady.

[DinkyDoo]

Hi confused123,
I am so sorry for what you are going through. It sounds like you are having a really tough time. I am feeling the same at the moment so i just wanted to say hi and that there are people out there that can support you like the helpline. I don’t know what I would do without the support I am getting from Woman’s Aid. They are truly wonderful ladies and I never imagined just how much support they have given me and how a chat over the phone can pick you up and point you back in the right direction. Perhaps put baby to bed tonight and pick up the phone. It might be hard at first but they really work to empower you.
It sounds like you’re doing a fab job on your own with your happy little one so be proud of yourself as being a mum and looking after a baby is so hard. As easy as it is for me to say and as hard as it is to do, don’t be dragged back down by him and others. He and they have had enough of your time now. Be strong. Move on. Speak up. xxx

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Thank you for your reply and kind words indiamalachite…xxx

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Thank you so much Serenity. I will ask her on (detail removed by Moderator) when she comes. The Freedom Programme has been mentioned to me but I think you’re right about not being ready.
I went to see Rape Crisis but they don’t have any space with counsellors for five to six months so perhaps my WA lady can direct me to someone else.
Thank you for taking the time to post me a reply. It means a lot.

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