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I have exact same situation with my 2 girls. Their Dad took them after years of mental and physical abuse towards me and they are both saying they want to stay with him. He had me arrested for apparently attacking him but was released with NFA as it wasn’t true. He is claiming I am an alcoholic and it seems as though everyone swallowed his lies. (detail removed by Moderator) Supervised access to my own children who I have looked after since day one while he did his hobbies. He doesn’t work while I have a full time job. I am still in the family home and he won’t allow the girls to even visit here as he tells them it is a mess when that is not true. (detail removed by Moderator) I am so worried as the Social Workers seem to be taken in by him and the girls had nothing positive at all to say about me. They are being completely alienated and make comments about my weight the same as he used to. They tell me if I am nice to Daddy then I will be allowed to see them. He comes into the family home constantly and takes whatever he wants including my food. At least once, if not twice a day. He hung his (detail removed by Moderator) at the front door so when I came in I had to walk through it. He just won’t stop. The case of physical and coercive control (detail removed by Moderator) and he is potentially facing an (detail removed by Moderator) charge. How can (detail removed by Moderator) leave my girls with him when all I have been guilty of is apparently one day they had to make their own sandwich when I was unwell in bed ! It is costing me financially and health wise and if the girls continue to say they don’t want to be with me what chance do I have in court? I just don’t know anymore. Maybe he just wins as he has always done.

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I have exactly the same thing but my husband has taken my 2 girls and gone to live with his Mum (detail removed by Moderator) ago. He now has full control and only has allowed me (detail removed by Moderator) zoom calls in (detail removed by Moderator) weeks. (detail removed by Moderator). He says the children do not want to see me but they are scared to say they do for fear of him. The police who went round to see them girls when I reported it said that the girl’s answers they were giving were very trained answers, parrot fashion. He used to be so nasty, physically abusive and then when I snapped would record me so he is saying I am unstable and an alcoholic. I have (detail removed by Moderator) statements claiming they have seen no evidence of alcohol abuse including from a psychologist. I am terrified that I will not get them home as the girls are saying to everyone that they want to be with him. I am a (detail removed by Moderator) , working (detail removed by Moderator) while I was working he has been doing all the behaviours you said above. Turning the girls against me. I just hope (detail removed by Moderator) takes note of all the statements I have got and at least allows me to have the girls 50/50 until all investigations are don with CAFCASS etc

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