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[Ihavenofriends]

Thankyou lisa, it’s been a long hard draining road and just both of your replies make me feel stronger. I had him text alot tonight to stay just until he finds somewhere but I know it’s a way to get back in, I’ve said ask family. It’s true exactly what your saying but I still look at him as not abuser, I say he is i know he is but I look at him and think no your not.

Yesican…it’s another level when they’re alcoholic aswell because they have even more vulnerable moments and looking so helpless at times, feeling responsible for them to keep safe. Plus he has noone else either as he relies on me so much so I can relate to that to but you really got to get out of the situation, please don’t feel guilty anymore xx

 

 

[Ihavenofriends]

And well done, I’m so glad you’ve done it, you should be proud of yourself it’s a huge achievement 👏 xx

[Ihavenofriends]

Stand your ground, I wish I had a few years ago when I did exactly the same as you. As soon as he was out I changed the locks, felt a sense of freedom. Had his family stick up for him but what I didn’t think of at the time is they are not to blame, they only listen to his truth and don’t see what goes on behind closed doors. I eventually took him back but regretted it literally a week later but a few years down the line I’ve recently got him out and determined that’ll it’ll stay that way this time, the change in my kids already makes me keep going. Even hes putting guilt on me, homeless wanting to stay over, ive refused. We got this 💪

[Ihavenofriends]

Tell him to take what he wants and go. Call his bluff. My recent ex did this plus more excuses, all manipulation tactics because they know we won’t go through with it if we hit a dead end. The things he takes you can eventually buy again, there’s no price on freedom.

[Ihavenofriends]

I was going to post then read your update. Unfortunately this is what I was told repeatedly, he would be so vulnerable and I’d feel like I’d have to protect him. Give it a few weeks/months he’d be complete opposite. This is a cycle that I hope you’ll break. No you won’t get those years back but don’t waste the years you have left to enjoy life once and for all.

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