Yes you’re right Fizzylem, even though I’m looking at him and thinking, “you are so lying”..,I can get it in my head that maybe, just maybe he’s telling the truth and go and give him the benefit of the doubt! I am in the process of leaving, though it could take a while,in the mean time I have to put up with his mind games causing my self esteem to slip even further down.I just wish it didn’t bother me that he might be having an affair,and am trying the gray rock method as recommended to me,but am not always able to achieve the disinterested attitude that would help me to disengage. Thanks so much for your reply and support,it does help..xx