Macarena

[Macarena]

I really appreciate the response.

Sadly, there’s no one that can be with me at handovers and the unwanted behaviour is continuing in other ways, including sending me emails and stuff. I’ve asked him yet again today to stop and I’m coming to the realisation it probably won’t and I need some help.

Would anyone be able to give me some guidance on what’s the best way to go about this? Do I go to the local DA team? The police already asked him not to come to the house unannounced and he’s already been here few times despite that. I really need to speak to someone and do this, and I finally feel brave enough to stop this once and for all. Any advice will be much appreciated.

[Macarena]

I just wanted to thank you for writing to me. I’m reading and re-reading all of your messages, and I wish you knew what it means for me that somebody cares.

I find myself not checking the forum when things are good between us. Incidentally, he’s been absolutely amazing last couple of weeks, letting me rest and taking care of our baby. But (detail removed by moderator), he’s like an absolute wall. And only because, (detail removed by moderator). He’s been angry, catty and avoiding talking or looking at me since. I’ll make meals and clean as usual, he’ll consume and litter just to annoy me. Apparently, (detail removed by moderator). He’s been ignoring me since.

(Detail removed by moderator) I thought I won a little victory as he said he’ll move out. Then, of course, he changed his mind. He’s just refusing to leave. He said he prefers if baby and I go but every time I say I’m looking for a place, etc., he becomes super nice. We are joint tenants on this property and I have no idea how to move on without his knowledge or if anyone will rent me a place or if I can get a mortgage, given that I left work. I’m so, so desperate. Has anyone got any success stories with housing, please?

(Detail removed by moderator) police said they can investigate historical (physical) abuse but unsure if this will help. Sometimes I think it’s like my only ammunition but the idea it’s all going to become really ugly from now is beyond painful for me.

I admire everyone’s strength on here. I used to support people experiencing DA in some capacity a while ago and I still can’t comprehend where I’m at. Thank you!

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