mum@pop

[mum@pop]

I suffered abuse in the past.
Being on benefits, I don’t have enough to private rent.
I can’t walk far either so can’t go for a walk.
Is there any support I can get please?
A lot more has/is going on but I don’t feel safe writing it in case someone sees

[mum@pop]

Thank you everyone

at first, the female housing office was lovely
she said as he had mental health issues, and i had rung the police, i might not have to pay for the damage
The doors are easily filled, sanded and painted.
She said this male office would come and make my house safe
he was horrible
told me i have to pay
the front door only has 1 lock, the female office said it wasn’t safe – he ignored that.
the back gate has no lock, as the house sunk and the gate is loose, he never sorted that.
he even looked at one of my sons, who is shy, and asked me – does he having learning problems!!!
said things like, it doesn’t look like a home, you don’t have a telly and couch – erm i clearly do

i have skills and a course is not on the cards as i work full time – i would love to go to uni but at (detail removed by moderator) i can’t afford it and think i’m too old now and have all this to cope with

i pay 100 a month for rent arrears, owe 2000, all from helping out family and neglecting the rent

i have a day off next week and will ring around

if i could just get a cheap flat with my 2 boys, i could get straight and maybe drop a day of work, so less stress

[mum@pop]

Thank you for the reply i have emailed victim support
The housing office was lovely and suggested money help and victim support, but nothing has happened as i really struggle with having a low wage – and mental health problems of my own. i don’t get any help – i used to get ESA for my bipolar but got kicked off, the interview was so degrading, i got a job eventually and now work full time.
i just haven’t got spare money – sh did say they would maybe replace them – he kicked holes and punched them, but the chap that came after kept going on about me being vulnerable and at risk, then told me i can get someone cheap to fit a door for a tenner – i’ve been quoted £40 to £50 just to fit a door, then the doors are about £35 as they are not standard sizes! i’m trying to get better and get over everything and feel harrassed – oh and i told them i can carefully fill the holes and paint the doors to look nice but was told no, they want new doors

[mum@pop]

get him blocked and don’t let him play games with you – i tried to date someone last year – he was someone local and i know his family. he seemed lovely at first, but turned nasty when i didn’t reply to his messages one night when my phone was on the blink – i straight told him here to go – that’s how they all start, by being rude and seeing how you react – if you cave in they just go on doing it and it gets worse.
This chap since then has been rude and i had to block his number and facebook block him – i’m not lowering myself for any man again – would rather be single for the rest of my life than keep my mouth shut if they disrespect me!

[mum@pop]

And just to add, he said it doesn’t look like a home, well it doesn’t as any nice things i had or nice pictures usually ended up getting broken, so i gave up trying to have a nice house.

[mum@pop]

hopelifjoy – i need a new job. it’s too stressful but i have no savings to manage till i either get benefits or a new job, i jut feel stuck when i should feel free

[mum@pop]

Brilliant news – my job keeps me going – no one knows about the abuse i had from my son – nd some from my daughter – my good friends like me for me

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