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I am not sure any counsellors are trained in abuse.
I have a friend who has just qualified (she does not know my history)
She has spent 4 years training to be a counsellor without ever touching on abuse.
My own experience would indicate that this is very much the case.
Jumping from the counsellor who wanted to talk to me about birth order to the last counsellor who know a fair bit as I had been asked to write something before the sessions – who asked me what I had done to provoke the violence and whether I had retaliated.
I did complain
The wrote back blaming me for not feeling understood.
I will never go to another counsellor after the damage the last one did

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I, too, think I disappeared.
I was with him for over (detail removed by moderator)
I left when my life was in danger, but for most of the marriage he destroyed who I was with only verbal violence.
By the end I functioned on autopilot and did not leave the armchair unless I had to.
I have no friends left – never had any family
and now have no house and no money or prospect of financial security.
The worst is that when things escalated out of control no one asked if I was ok – no one at all – despite me being homeless and destitute – no one even asked.
I have been out for (detail removed by moderator)
Have a job which just about covers the rent – that is all I have.
I don’t think I matter to anyone except my children – which is why I have to keep living

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