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[Prague]

Thank you guys, it feel great to tell someone and here from people who have experienced similar things. I’m trying not to be too hard on myself and blame myself but sometimes i just get in my head too much. I’d like to go to the GP about it and i know it’s confidential but I really don’t my family (eps my mum) to find out. There’s too many issues behind there. I haven’t really openly confided in anyone about the abuse ever so I’m glad I can use the forum. Did you guys confide in anyone close to you at the time? Who did you talk to and did it help at all?

[Prague]

Hi, I hope you’re doing well. I’ve also been out of my relationship for (detail removed by moderator) and although i don’t have kids, it comfort me to know that I’m so so incredibly grateful to be in the position where i am now. It may not be the best outcome of the situation but it’s way better than what it was. Once you’ve hit rock bottom, there’s only going up. You are strong, you are loved, you are beautiful. Repeat that to yourself and believe it.
I started dating that I genuinely thought nothing would come of. But to my surprise, he’s amazing and so understanding. It’s great knowing that I am able to be loved by someone but I often feel like i rushed into things before coming to terms with the aftermath of my abuse. You need to love yourself before you can feel loved by anyone else. Do whatever it takes. Get your hair, nails, makeup done- the whole shabang. Love yourself and realise that you’re lovable. And one thing to keep in mind before starting to date is that, if you cant love yourself, how the hell are you going to love somebody else. This will build your confidence and even then, this could help your job prospects.
wish you the best

 

[Prague]

I’m really hoping that the support on here will help me go to my gp and get more help. Thank you for the advice xx

[Prague]

You’re right, I need to bring myself to actually go to the gp. Its one thing talking on the forum, which is still a big thing for me, but talking to someone in real life…that’s major. But I know it’ll help me. In the mean time I am journaling the things I can remember from my dreams.
Unfortunately i haven’t been able to go to a family member or friend to tell them what has happened because they view me as such a strong person. How could i tell them that i was manipulated and taken advantage for? They would never believe that i would take any bullshit from a man. Im just afraid they won’t see me at the same person anymore. I know I’m not weak but I’m so scared to be vulnerable around anyone. I’m the rock of the family and the person that everyone goes to for their problems so i feel like i’ve let them down.
Anyway, the point is, I want to get better mentally and hopefully once i start dealing with my trauma, I’m able to be honest with the people around me. That would make me so happy.

[Prague]

Hi, thank you so much. I’m going to look into that book, sounds really helpful!

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