Hi ladies, thank you so much for your replies, it made me feel already better to know that someone is able to understand what I have been through and it helps to see things with more clarity. I am quite keen on seeking professional support and I will do it. Thanks again for the books recommended.
-Kip, to aswer your question, no he does not abuse anyone else because he knows he cannnot do it. He is a smart guy and very manipulative. We do not have children or close family so I am his 24/7 target!