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I have managed to get some support from a local women’s aid. However, because I said that he had smacked our son and left a mark my case has been referred to social services. When I spoke with social services yesterday they said that the smacking was relatively minor (but obviously not condoned) and what was of more concern is my husbands behaviour to me in front of our children, due to it causing them emotional abuse.

They are speaking to school and will decide today if they need to intervene or leave it for the women’s aid outreach worker to support me. I cannot tell you how absolutely sick and frightened I am. I think my kids are okay, the SS worker thinks that it will probably be fine as the schools would have been in touch if there was a problem. But I can’t get over feeling like I’m conspiring against him and I’m worked about my future being taken out of my control.

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Hi Millennium, I really just want to offer you support. Your story reads very much like my own, the verbal and emotional abuse didn’t really start until after our first child but it dud escalate a few times to physical, even though he said he hadn’t punched me (he held his fist firm to my face).

I too am seeing my eldest copying his dad’s tone and lack of patience towards his younger brother and he can sometimes be disrespectful to me too so I know I have to get out for them. He won’t change, I’ve asked do often and he choices not too.

I won’t lie, if feels bad and I feel sick about the whole thing. What has helped me though is keeping a journal, whenever I have a wobble I read it and remember how he’s treated me and our kids badly. If you don’t have one Ivan really recommend it, you’ll probably see a pattern of behaviour.

Take care and good luck x

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