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      summerrose
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      Also the children he sees, the ones I hoped I could build relationships with hate me. They think I’m jealous of them, that I’ve stolen their dad and want me out of their lives – not that I see them anyway because he only ever sees me on my own. When there’s an argument he runs to them (and friends) and tells lies about me for sympathy. It drives me mad. Any excuse I have these people on my case hurling abuse at me. These are my siblings but not really because I never knew them growing up. He spent the first few months telling everyone I was the best thing since sliced bread and parading me around like a trophy and now all he does is moan about me to people and spin awful lies to smear me.

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      summerrose
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      I think you’re showing a lot of bravery for even getting this far. The emotional side of abuse is something I’m realising isn’t accounted for all that well by the system. Sending you lots of love and strength to do whatever is best for you

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      summerrose
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      Thank you for your replies. It really means a lot that you took the time to do so. I hadn’t thought of going to my gp. How is it they might be able to help? I speak to a psychologist regularly but I’m still struggling. Thank you for saying it’s not ok and that I’ve done nothing wrong – my mind gets so warped sometimes I think it’s all because of me. I know I need to cut all contact but the pain of that feels like it will be worse than the pain I’m in now because at least now I get temporary relief when he puts on the doting dad mask, even if it doesn’t last that long. I know long term once I’ve gone through the pain of accepting my dad doesn’t love me, that he’s not capable I’ll do and feel better but my God it’s a leap of faith I don’t feel strong enough to make. I can’t understand why I’m punishing myself so much by staying when I can just cut ties if I want to.

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