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Hey Catjam, 50 is really not too old. I married really young and never had a chance to go to University. At age 53 I blagged my way onto a part-time MA programme. It’s been a lifesaver but was tough working the day job, dealing with the abuse, infidelity and divorce and studying all at the same time. But I made it and am now looking forward to graduating at age 57 alongside my youngest! Grab a brochure from a Uni open day. You may be able to get a student loan https://www.gov.uk/mature-student-university-funding. And if you don’t have the relevant entry qualifications, you can usually do those at a FE college before applying to Uni. Or check out the free online courses through https://www.coursera.org. As a mature student you would bring your lifetime experience to a course and, in my experience, the young people on the course with me were absolutely accepting, helpful and lovely. Do it for a change of career, or do it for fun. It could change your life 🙂

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Thanks for sharing you story. I am making my way through the posts and loving all the support and kind comments. It’s good to hear that things get easier. I do realise that if you’re a kind, caring person, that it will never be possible to understand what’s going on in someone’s head when they behave so badly – so it’s not worth trying. It is time to be reunited with the person I was before all this. Living well and happily is a good goal to have. Thanks 🙂

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Thanks diymum@1

Sorry you’ve been through something similar. It seems particularly cruel to play on someone’s kindness and to use ‘mental health’ as a weapon of choice. The sudden leaving is devastating because you have no time to prepare whereas he has had months, or in my case years, to get used to the idea of not seeing me or his children again. I am not sure why they don’t just go right away – but perhaps they keep their options open. Sending a hug xxx

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Thank you Lisa, that has really helped. There are still moments when I find myself worrying about him, it’s a hard habit to shake. But yes, I can see that he was choosing to behave like this, and this makes me realise that he was not worrying or caring for us as he should have been and that I no longer need to do the same for him. It’s time to move on. There are so many stories of courage and determination on here. 🙂

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