Twothirds5

[Twothirds5]

Get some advice from womens aid, you can apply for occupation orders which will ensure you remain in the property and he moves out. Or look at a Non-Molestation order. Again, he would then have to move out. Its a harsh route to take but in my experience some men especially the abuser will bluntly refuse to do what is right for you and the children and simply worry about themselves.

You can do this. Speak directly with Womens Aid or Citizens advice, they will advise you on your legal rights with regards to the home but also how to protect yourself in occupying the house by yourself. If you are married he will have to pay his part of the mortgage and even spousal maintenance so you will be ok.

Get researching, some solicitors will even give an hours free advice. Knowledge is power. You got this x

[Twothirds5]

First of all, You need to get out. Do you want your children to hear him speak to you in that way? You are not I’m fairly sure any of those things and so where does he get off saying them?

He is what is called a perpetrator. They damage your confidence, then they isolate you by having you check in to the point where by you actually stop going out or working as that’s easier than having to suffer the barrage of abuse when your meeting over runs by 5 minutes. Once your confidence is shot and he isolates you, that’s it, his got you right where he wants you. You wont leave as he will make you believe you are useless and actually no one else would look twice at you and so you are lucky to have him. Actually – HE is LUCKY TO HAVE YOU!!
You are beautiful, hard working Mum who deserves the freedom to be your own woman with out suffering abuse at the back end of it.
Speak to a friends, explain what’s happening, but you need to keep your eyes wide open and embrace the freedom of leaving him.
Love him you may, but he sounds like he has the act of gas lighting and love bombing down to a fine art in order to pull you back in just when he feels like he has damaged your confidence enough for one day.

Look up Narcissism quotes or memes, google it. If you can relate to at least 3 of the things on the list, Please find the strength to save yourself now, for you and your babies. You got this x

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