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[woofgirl]

I have been in this situation, thinking that he would leave me before I was getting so ill from being with him. The thing is they have no empathy, they don’t actually care how you feel, you are just there to serve them. I went back to him as he promised it would all change – it did for a few weeks and then I basically got “told off” for months on end.
Get support, speak to WA, get support from your local DA helpline. I have also started to speak to a counsellor who deals with narcissistic abuse as it can be covert. Sending you so much love and support. You can do this.
He’s threats are just to keep you in your place, I promise you are are more powerful then you think. His abuse has made you think you are powerless.

[woofgirl]

Brilliant idea, I didn’t think of that. I’m scared that any question on my sanity could be used against me in custody courts though but I guess general anxiety about returning to him is a good idea and to get it recorded at GP anyway. thank you

[woofgirl]

Thank you ALL SO MUCH, I have been in touch with my local DA helpline which have given me some contacts, sadly though one lawyer said that domestic abuse is not a defence for the hague convention to be overturned – they simply acknowledge it and tell the other country to put in a safety procedure for me. But my ex has told me he knows hitmen and all sorts of shady characters before so I am literally terrified and so upset that I could be forced to go back there. I am going to speak to Rights of Women and more lawyers though to see what comes from that.

Thank you IWMB – I will google this FOG as I haven’t heard of it. I only recently realised I was actually being abused, I thought there was something wrong with me for years and have spent so many nights crying helplessly.

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