Bluechicken

[Bluechicken]

Were you ever the one to contact him to say you missed him? I have. And I feel I’ve been just as bad as him being so hot and cold. I just couldnt imagine how someone who seemed to miss me and love me could hurt me and not try to work it out. He just wanted to get intimate. We dated less time than we have now been broken up so it’s a bit silly. But I was pretty vulnerable to start with. But strong enough to know something was wrong. Now I think he wants to add me to the 50 women he says he has slept with since me! I have now finally said do not contact me again and so far he hasn’t replied. I feel crazy though.

[Bluechicken]

Oh wait. It’s only been (Detail removed by Moderator) weeks. Amazing how hard this has been. I feel so silly and weak. Yet also so strong.
KIP I liked your point about it being easier to string along an old victim than hook a new one. And I have little doubt he cheated. He would delete all messages off his phone and would be hesitant to put anything about us on social media. Plus I caught him out on small lies… if you can lie that easily and casually about small things I’m sure you can big things.

Glad I’m not just difficult or the one with issues.

[Bluechicken]

Thank you ladies. I should clarify he never got violent. When I say physical I mean he would think sex would fix it all. Maybe that’s the whole trauma bonding thing?
Thank you for confirming what I think I knew but was doubting. It did feel sometimes like a well rehearsed game.
He actually asked me to stop contacting him. After I told him that if he really wanted to help me he would disappear because he thought for me to move on we had to make peace so I dont hate him…(his ego hated me thinking he was a bad guy perhaps). He did stop contacting me But then I had panic attacks and messaged and he was the one to say he was sick of the same conversation. I guess he was back in control so happy now. Ah well… and he can have that if it means he has gone. Its been (Detail removed by Moderator). I feel better already.

[Bluechicken]

Oh that cycle of wanting to “just make peace” nnd end things amicably. Sounds so familiar. As well as saying you won’t find anyone as good as him. Classic manipulation. Do not see him. Keep him blocked and don’t respond.

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