Bumblebee3

[Bumblebee3]

I’m here trying to answer this question myself. How am I going to move on from this? From him? From the all the feelings I have for him.
I think it’s a case of when, and not how.
All of us here are moving on, it’s a constant day by day thing. As each day passes I know I take a step closer to who I used to be.
And you will be too, we’re all going forward, now in control of our own space, mind and life!
One thing I know, 100% I made the best decision to go. I haven’t moved on from him yet, but I will, and you will too. We will get there and that’s my focus now.
I still have moments where I miss him. But then when I actually think about it, what do I miss? A rose tinted memory that’s clouded by his abusive behaviour.
No thanks I’m going to get out, live life make my own memories.

[Bumblebee3]

Thanks for all the comments.

[Bumblebee3]

Thank you.
Your help, advise and stories are making a huge difference to me at the moment.
Finally I don’t feel so confused.
I’ve downloaded the book why does he do that, and even though I just thought this behaviour was just him being him, I understand that there’s a pattern to this behaviour that isn’t going to improve/ disappear/ vanish/ change or alter in the slightest.
Reading it in a book is still hard to digest knowing that your husband treats you in a way that make you unhappy.
Time to focus on a better future.

[Bumblebee3]

Thank you for all the replies! It makes me feel so united with you all especially when life can just feel very lonely.

[Bumblebee3]

Thanks for reply. It’s good to hear another point of view as sadly my family are fed up of it now. They have offered support but also been very distant.
I know the two situations I face the first is to leave, and forever been the horrible nasty b**** that left him and broke our family.
But make a life for me with my daughter and slowly get back to my olde self.
Or stay living, unhappy only for him to Leave me when it suits him. Just stick around hoping for a miracle.

I’m worried that he will always be the bully in my life even if we aren’t together.
I’m scared of the backlash if/ when I leave.
Thank you again

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