Camelia Daisy

[Camelia Daisy]

Your both so right, I need to keep it in perspective and stay strong.

I get so anxious when I’m not 100% as he uses times like this to tell me how bad of a parent I am and that the kids don’t want to be with me anyway.

It’s almost like he has done all the leg work now making me on edge and I am the one doing all the criticising for him now.

I do need to speak to the police and get this sorted once and for all. I’m just not sure I feel strong enough to deal with it all right now with being in the process of court already.

Thanks for all your advice. I’m still feeling pretty down and emotional but it’s so nice to have people who understand where I’m coming from with no opinion or judgement xx

[Camelia Daisy]

That’s such great advice. Thank you. I will do that, it has become very hard to see the positives about me lately I think this will help a lot.

I do try to talk to the kids but ultimately they are just kids so they think you are ok 10 minutes later. I love this about them too.

I do feel like he’s winning, he’s pushed me to the edge and I’m loosing my grip. I will continue to off load, yes. I just wonder if the best thing to do is let the kids dad have what he wants and maybe he will leave me alone and I xan cherish my time with them again instead of being so scared of getting anything wrong and their dad using against me. I would miss them and it would tear me apart but at least they wpuld be away from me and all this emotional stress.

You are so wonderful KIP thank you x

[Camelia Daisy]

You sound like a lovely person and that is a beautiful thing, trust your instincts and I’m certain you will do the right thing.

The statistics are scary, I agree, but remember that each case is unique and that shouldn’t put you off doing what is right, if that’s what you want to do. Real change is possible when we stand up to the problem, in this case, our abusers.

Be so proud that you can see who he is, that you know the truth and it is that which he hates, not you. He knows you hold the power.

I personally feel so proud that I can not understand my abuser as this means we are worlds apart and I am nothing like him.

You can get advice from the police without making a statement or pressing charges by calling the non emergency line and asking for the domestic abuse line. I would highly recommend speaking to a professional and getting support for yourself. This will help to keep you strong when you need it

xx

[Camelia Daisy]

Hi Fridges

I sympathise with your situation. This is a very exhausting and emotionally draining thing to deal with.

I’m also trying to decide which path I should take and can’t seem to decide either way as I’m just not sure I have the strength to fight anymore.

My feeling is that maybe this means it’s time to take a step back and focus on ourselves for a while to gain some inner strength. Give yourself permission to be happy and do things that are going to bring some light in to your life instead. Easier said than done I know!

I really hope that whatever you choose you can gind peace. I agree with Lisa, whatever you do will be right for you at this point so try not to be too hard on yourself about the outcome. His response is out of your hands and you mustn’t feel responsible in anyway for this.

Love to you xx

[Camelia Daisy]

Thank you for that. I just dont understand these people and the amount of effort they put in to making someone else’s life a misery. I don’t deserve to be treat like this but it feels like the only thing I can do is try to ignore his attempts to manipulate a situation.

I’m nowhere near well enough to try volunteering . Not only am I busy with study, work and the kids, I just don’t feel like I can put my all in to it right now and risk burning myself out all together.

The school have said previously that they have his type down but I get the feeling sometimes that he’s said something because the teachers etc. avoid eye contact. Then later on someone tells me what he’s said. I want school to be where my kids can be free from all the stress and just be them. You know?

Would you say it’s a waste of time trying to get the police involved and prove what he’s like then? I don’t have a lot of faith in the justice system anymore I’m afraid.

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