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[Cat lover]

Thank you for your replies xx
Its nice to know people are there xx
This morning he started for no reason. Started having a moan about the dog hair and then that the dog needs to go. Moved on to the house being a mess and what do I do on my day off. House is a shit hole etc etc. Then saw me eat a crisp and started on the ‘scoffing your face again you fat pig’ ‘you’re always eating”youre getting obese’etc etc. Escalated into an argument. I retaliated for once and said that hes not exactly slim himself. Now hes gone out. Im a size 8. My self esteem is rock bottom. Im eating less. Hes Jekyl and Hyde. I hate him. He uses our son as a pawn. How can I get him to leave?

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You are all right. I often think of booking us into a B&B while hes at work, just so he knows i’m serious.

Im not well atm but trying to muster the energy to do things for my son because he won’t.

He’s told me he’s taking him to watch the football next week, for the day, with another dad and his son. I’ve been told to stay home. What if my son needs me? What if he threatens him or upsets him?

I’m always with them to act as referee. I’m losing sleep over it.

He’s had to pick him up from after school club tonight because i’m ill and he said hes taking him shopping after. He’ll be tired and probably a bit ratty, especially shopping after a long day. But he knows im powerless because i am ill.

Ive told my mum and sister about him today.
My dad was very similar to my mum when i was growing up. Hated my brother and still does even though hes (detail removed by moderator) with his own kids.

Not gonna let my child be brought up around that.

Hes becoming angry and will copy daddy and throw things. But then obviously get told off for it!

Its very much, do as i say, not as i do!

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I look at him and just see all the nastiness. He wonders why i show him no attention. Says he’ll cheat if i dont give him more sex etc.

I cant bring myself to go near him. Havent done for years. I hate him.

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I never forget (detail removed by moderator) years ago when they sent a male social worker to talk to me after a police call out. He was reading what my partner did to me (physical assault detail removed by moderator) and found it most amusing and said sorry whilst chuckling. It just sounded funny!
Hmm. Not funny for me though eh!
As I’ve already had thrm involved for one incident, it puts me off ringing the police again as they assume my son is in danger. Little do they know that the reason i’m in this position is that i guard my boy with my life. Hes my everything. I practise gentle parenting. So being made to look like a bad parent is like the worst for me.
Obviously if I was in danger I would have to call the police and deal with SS. I just think they need to review their actions towards the victim.

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Hi. This is very similar to my situation except we have a child together and i am now walking on eggshells for both myself and my son.
I can’t go out and leave them alone together so i dont. Not been out for over a decade. Will only let him have him in public places for a very short time.
He lives in my rented house but pays no rent. I’ve asked him to leave and he just laughs and says no chance! But it’s difficult for me and a child and my (detail removed by moderator)year old from a previous relationship, not to mention the pets, to just up and leave with no money.

He runs me and my family down almost daily. Calls me names. Flips and smashes stuff up. So many broken item and furniture in this house!

Been together (detail removed by moderator) years and got worse since having our son, although he made me clean the mess he threw on the floor when i was (detail removed by moderator) pregnant and clapped while i did it.

Had police out when baby was (age removed by moderator) cos he had me against a wall by my throat. Had to meet with social services after this as they were worried about our son but i literally guard him with my life. So this puts me off ringing them again.

He calls our son a c*nt, little shit, its all your fault etc.

I spend most of the evening with my son in the bedroom just to keep him out the way.

All our friends think hes wonderful. Have even said they wish they had a relationship like ours!! Thats how he works. Even his family would never believe it.

We have blazing rows at least a few times a week because of his lack of patience towards our son.

He was an awful child himself, rude, violent, too streetwise etc but expects our son to be a robot.

He just wont leave!

Im ill and tired.

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