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Hi turtledove

Hope your all ok?

I have now got a non molestation order out on him but back in court soon as my ex is contesting it.

Im scared that he will get it granted and he will try and kill me due to his last text if i see you i will run you off round but i always have our son with me so if he kills me he be killing our son. Also my ex was never at home and when he was he didnt look after our son.

I just want to get on with mine and my son
lives and be happy again.

Any advice what to do next?

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Hi camel

I have realised why and what it was not getting involved with anyone for a long time

I going to give my son and myself life we deserve.

Thanks for your help

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Hi

My ex son and daughter are now messaging me,

I received a text from his son saying (detail removed by Moderator).

Coz I reported it to police so they can log it, his sister in now messaging me saying (detail removed by Moderator)

What do I do? Do I just ignore it?

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Hi all,

Contacted the docs today and now just waiting game with work fingers crossed life might get easier.

Just feels like everyone believes him and I’m made out to be a liar, when it’s him.

I’m hurting so much, just wish knew what to do or think!

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Hi all,

Thanks all for all your help, going to phone docs tomorrow for help.

I’m not going to go back at all I’ve come to far and I just don’t want to lose my son if I lose my job and I just want to move on (detail removed by Moderator) hopefully he only get supervised access and I’ll get full custody. Why did he have to go for my job and why does he still try and control me when we done and he has a new woman. I’m not bothered he with her he was cheating on me from day one.

Why did I not see all the red flags?
Why when we was at home together he never wanted our son as soon as I leave or went to csa he now reckon he the world best dad?
I just want him to back off he never wanted me as he was off Out with other people I was just his slave go to shop for f**s, run me a bath, do me a cuppa, sandwich. On Valentine’s Day I brought him his favourite (detail removed by Moderator) for a £1 he got me nothing but it didn’t bother me to much. But that weekend he wanted to go out with his son to play (detail removed by Moderator) he can afford £10 to do that but couldn’t afford to buy me something for £1 he then came home and said I was ungrateful and said that I don’t need anything and that I not allowed to go out but he his. He says who I can and can’t talk to.

I just hope this is sorted soon I can’t take much more. I never know how he treated me was domestic abuse. Is it? Or is it me being thick as that what he said I was?

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Thanks your right turtledove,

You had it bad too hope ur ok?
Your doing so good,

Im going to keep going it will only get better and like you now i have money i have started saving for my son birthday and christmas as this year will be the best hopefully with my family and people who actual do care.

Thanks for being there xx

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Hi turtledove

My ex was same never acknowleged him and did anything with him, morning after i came out of hospital he took his other son out i was on my own with my little one id only been out hospital (detail removed by Moderator) hrs

Also when i asked him to help he would not help change, feed, bath, or care for him, if i left thd room little one would cry so i tryed to do everything when he was asleep. My ex would never change a nappy or deal with his son it was all me all coz i went to the csa he now wanting our son an i not heard from him after we split then when he recieved the letter from csa he got nasty again

He says its all my fault he cant pay for his son he walked out of his job and didnt protect his family only to think of himself and expected me to keep paying bills and rent. He begging for me tto go back to him but he moved his with women he been seeing behind my back since day one.

I feel its all my fault and he telling me it is so

Trying to look forward and sort everything out quickly but my head hurts and dont know where to start.

Ive been focusing on my little one he so much happier and sleeping well and in a routine he never had that before because my ex was never wuite and kept waking little man up

I am never going back but to stop all the pain is to go back but i need to do what best for my boy and thats keep going.

Hope things get better

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Hi Eggshells, thanks for getting back to me and all your usefull information, its made me realise ive made the correct decision blocking him and not letting him see our son as i wont to keep us safe.

I know its been (detail removed by Moderator) since i made a statement to the police not heard if he been arrested or not.

I hope i can get through all this like you all have finding everything so hard at minute i just wwant to live my life with my son and family, i d
I dont understand why he trying to hurt me when he been hurting me and cheating and not wanting or son when we were together

He kept telling me i was parnoid or thick and jab me in the ribs or hit me round head. So now everything im thinking or doing im still thinking that way.

I hope i can be strong and my son sees when he is older what his dad is like, i just want to protect my son and give him a happy loving and fun life.

What have other people done to get over an ex thar done all this?

Can anyone help on the custody side? I’m wanting sole custody for me and visitation rights Only for him supervised access for me only? Can anyone advise what to do or If I could do this?

Many thanks Daylight

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Is this domestic abuse or am I going crazy?

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Hi Eggshells, thanks for getting back to me and all your usefull information, its made me realise ive made the correct decision blocking him and not letting him see our son as i wont to keep us safe.

I know its been (detail removed by Moderator) since i made a statement to the police not heard if he been arrested or not.

I hope i can get through all this like you all have finding everything so hard at minute i just wwant to live my life with my son and family, i d
I dont understand why he trying to hurt me when he been hurting me and cheating and not wanting or son when we were together

He kept telling me i was parnoid or thick and jab me in the ribs or hit me round head. So now everything im thinking or doing im still thinking that way.

I hope i can be strong and my son sees when he is older what his dad is like, i just want to protect my son and give him a happy loving and fun life.

What have other people done to get over an ex thar done all this?

Many thanks Daylight

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Hi turtle dove,

That’s bad he shouldn’t of done that to get time out it shows they really don’t care bout nothing. I can remember when I was pregnant I had to pick him and his son up at (detail removed by Moderator) from drinking session.

He also made out I over loved my son coz he never went to my ex it was always me and if I was not near him he would scream as he wanted me. Also he would tell me that near before I left he said he would take our son off me and told my brother in law that he going to get me to lose my job and sent to prison and it’s like I’ve been set up coz it’s happening.

Work are believing him and all need now is (detail removed by Moderator) to believe him I’ve lost everything. He taken everything but he not takin my son ( I was told could never have children and fell fell pregnant with my ex when I told him I was pregnant he Said it is what it is.

Would you say he didn’t want our son?
He said I’ll be losing our son by (detail removed by Moderator). What I have on him and trying to safeguard him like my ex shooting me with (detail removed by Moderator) gun and hitting me round head for asking him if he loved me or wanted to be with me.

He wanted to go to mediation I said no coz it’s not safe.

I hope I’m not going mad and this is domestic abuse or am I going crazy?

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Hi all,

Thanks all for all your help, going to phone docs tomorrow for help.

I’m not going to go back at all I’ve come to far and I just don’t want to lose my son if I lose my job and I just want to move on (detail removed by Moderator) hopefully he only get supervised access and I’ll get full custody. Why did he have to go for my job and why does he still try and control me when we done and he has a new woman. I’m not bothered he with her he was cheating on me from day one.

Why did I not see all the red flags?
Why when we was at home together he never wanted our son as soon as I leave or went to csa he now reckon he the world best dad?
I just want him to back off he never wanted me as he was off Out with other people I was just his slave go to shop for fags, run me a bath, do me a cuppa, sandwich. On Valentine’s Day I brought him his favourite (detail removed by Moderator) for a £1 he got me nothing but it didn’t bother me to much. But that weekend he wanted to go out with his son to play (detail removed by Moderator) he can afford £10 to do that but couldn’t afford to buy me something for £1 he then came home and said I was ungrateful and said that I don’t need anything and that I not allowed to go out but he his. He says who I can and can’t talk to.

I just hope this is sorted soon I can’t take much more. I never know how he treated me was domestic abuse. Is it? Or is it me being thick as that what he said I was?

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Hi

Thanks for all your advice, it has made me see it all bit more clearly,

Did you contact caffcass direct or do i need to do that after i have been to court?

How have you been able to get through everything sounds like you not had it easy either?

I dont want to lose my son and dont want my ex to brain wash him like he did me?

Why does my ex say things to hurt me? I always done what he wanted me to except running back to him.

I want to protect my little one and give him life he deserves and make him proud and get a place me and my boy.

Many thanks

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Hi freedomfries01
Many thanks but don’t feel strong just trying to heal and do what best for my son and try and lead a happy life just me and my boy. Just hope make him proud and going to give him all I can.

Just need to know what to do next?
Any advise would be greatly appreciated
Many thanks daylight x

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Hi all thanks for reply’s i still very scared and unsure what to do next,

He now written to ask to go to mediation, he wont listern he wants all his way and wont look after our son he just doing this all to hurt me and make me go back to him which i wont because all i want is my family and my son, would like sole custoday of my son and if my ex has visitation rirights surpervised id be happy

Please can someone let me know what i need to do?

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