Ginjaninja257

[Ginjaninja257]

My ex was the same.  Even friends who came to the court case and saw him being charged with assault by beating have stood by his side.  It’s one of the hardest things to swallow.  But these men are manipulative and masters at their trade.

[Ginjaninja257]

I’m new to this forum.  And my response to you may be a little clumsy; there is no offence intended at all.

I feel for you.  I’ve read your posts, and initially, I was, what the hell?  And then I got it.  You are using this forum to express your thoughts and feelings, and that’s cool.  We can all relate to what you are saying, and remember, whilst it might feel that you are alone.  You are not.

I wish that something like this had existed or I had known about it when I was with my ex-husband.  I felt so isolated and alone.

Families are really complicated.  (detail removed by Moderator)

When I rang my parents to tell them I’d been beaten for the last time and I was leaving my ex-husband, all my mother was worried about how I couldn’t divorce as no one in the family had been divorced.  It took me a long time to get over that one.

Please never feel like a burden; keep using this space as a safety blanket.  I wish from the bottom of my heart that you get some peace xx

[Ginjaninja257]

This is the one thing I haven’t been able to overcome.  It’s one of the memories that has haunted me.  It was the time when my ex-husband kicked my cat across the hallway.  He was punishing me for my behaviour. I was devastated, but I couldn’t do much as his son was in the house, and I didn’t want to cause a “scene” It was awful.  They are monsters…

[Ginjaninja257]

I used to dread sex with my ex.  Not because he demanded it but because of some of the things he used to do to me.  I told him many times that I didn’t like it, but he didn’t care.  It humiliated me and made me feel really dirty.  But also, my body would betray me as he would always make me cum.  I hated it and would usually end up crying.  Which he loved…urgh.

Other times when I would try to instigate it he would shout, belittle and pick an argument.  Getting so angry, he once punched a hole in the door.  This would leave me feeling rejected and worthless.  He was a lovely man.

Reading these posts, while it is so horrible for everyone to have experienced these things, makes me realise that I am really not alone.

[Ginjaninja257]

My ex-husband did the same to me regularly.(detail removed by moderator) then told me he was going to kill himself on the motorway.  He got out of the car and walked towards the slip road.  I was beside myself with fear.  I was torn between WTF he had just done to me and terrified that he was going to kill himself.  He didn’t…. it was a threat designed to have an effect.  The one thing I’ve realised about these types of people is that they are too selfish to do it.

 

Stay strong, put yourself first. You are not responsible for his actions, even though I know it feels like you are. xx

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