Gym mama

[Gym mama]

Hi, I can’t really offer any advice as I’m currently going through the same. Had cafcass meetings and the anxiety I have been suffering from is horrible. For years, I suffered mental abuse by my ex-husband, and years later, I still struggle. I’ve always tried to maintain contact between them but had to deal with his bullying and constantly letting the children down. I’ve had women contact me to inform me of what he has done to them then a stranger (detail removed by Moderator) telling me I need to safeguard my children from this abuser and that’s when contact stopped. (detail removed by Moderator). Just remember you and your children are not at fault, it’s his behaviour and that behaviour was his choice. Mental abuse is hard to prove but it’s real and it’s hard to recover from and when you get dragged to court it brings a lot of stuff back to the front of your mind. Keep strong for your children and yourself and just remember you know the truth and you are doing everything to protect your babies. Feel free to message me any time even if it’s just for a rant. Abusers will use any tactic to get to you even if that means upsetting your children.

[Gym mama]

I just feel like I have been more than reasonable and always put my children first. I can’t afford solicitors and I’ve been to different solicitors to get the half an hour free so I’m now out of options. I’m going to have to wait until he takes me to court ( not sure he will, he is selfish and greedy). It’s been years since we split and I thought things would get easier but the anxiety and stress is always there. My confidence is so low at the minute and I’ve had a few days where I’ve just wanted to give up but I know my children need me and I need to keep them safe.
Thank you for the support and letting me know that there are people who will listen.

[Gym mama]

Hi lovely, I just want to say I have felt and still feel exactly the same as you. Its hard to keep strong sometimes, I have days when I don’t want to face the day but I’ve got my little humans that need their mum. If you want a chat you can send me a message if you like. I think it’s always good to speak about things or even if it’s just to have a bit of a rant.

[Gym mama]

Thank you so much for the support. We have attempted mediation a few times but I’ve always ended up giving in to what he wants then he doesn’t stick to it. I contacted mediation again and explained the situation and they said because of everything that has gone on and how scared I am at the minute, they don’t really think it’s right for me to go through that. I just want my children happy and safe, I can’t take the risk of them being taken from me and I don’t ever want them to be put in a situation where they see or hear any sort of abuse. I don’t have much confidence at the minute and every day I just think- I want to feel like me again, I want to show my daughter how to be a strong independent woman and to accept who she is. I don’t want my kids to see me breaking down and being afraid.

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