Helpmeimfedup

[Helpmeimfedup]

Please don’t give in to him. From past experience it doesn’t get better. I wish I had someone to tell me that when I saw signs like this. The more you take him back the harder it will become. I agree with move his stuff out and change the locks. I also agree with not having him named on the birth certificate its not necessary. Hope you are ok and try not to allow any stress especially during your pregnancy. X

[Helpmeimfedup]

I will give it Google now thank you x

[Helpmeimfedup]

Sounds very familiar to me. I’m sorry I may not have the best advice I’m new on here but felt I needed to respond as I see similarities in our situations, just try to stay calm with him as you don’t want a reaction. You so sound much better than him though it’s not nice to be treated the way you are and you deserve to be treated with respect. Hope you are ok xx

[Helpmeimfedup]

Really sorry, what does trauma bonded mean? I do vision me being able to leave but I can’t see it being something amicable or that he will let me just go (we have 2 young children) since being with him I’ve heard a horrible story (that he told me) he done to the family of an ex girlfriend I’m unsure of his ‘reason’ but what he did is straight up psychopathic! I would hate for something to happen to my friends or family because I decided to leave I would feel so guilty! It’s almost like me living like this to me is better than him affecting anyone else. I understand now that I can’t help him with addiction and even if I could I still wouldn’t change anything because the abuse isn’t just when he’s on drugs the majority of it is when he’s ‘sober’.

Thank you for responding

[Helpmeimfedup]

I cant manage to stay up we also have two young children so I generally will go to sleep anyway (I’m quite a light sleeper) and if I didn’t answer the door knocking he would ring the door bell til I did.

There have been times where I’ve left a key out if I’ve had to go out to get food or pay bills etc but he told me not to because anyone could find it. I doubt he would agree to a key safe at ours. (He never takes his phone with him when he goes out like this so I can’t actually contact him)

I think these would be great ideas I just know he will shut them down straight away after all it’s the (his name) show!

I’ve been saving money elsewhere for a little while now I don’t have any stuff packed though. A lot of the stuff in the house is mine though I don’t know if I were to plan to leave I could get my stuff somehow too?

Thank you so much for responding

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