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Iamme,

The contact is  ordered and the social worker suspended contact after the first visit with me and the boys. When asked to scale how happy they are to go one say 5 and the other said zero. This shocked me because they both see to want to go.
I know I am discussed in front of them or with them as my eldest said he doesn’t know who to believe. I’ve told him it’s something he needs to figure out himself unfortunately. (I will not talk about dad with the boys as they love him and don’t need it).
I don’t understand why anyone would want their children to suffer like this. (detail removed by moderator)

Thank you Lisa I have spoken with NSPCC in the past and young minds. I will have a look at the 2 Web pages.

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I’m not isolated at the minute but If I packed up and left the area I would be. Im looking forward to finishing work later so I can chill for the weekend. I’m so fed up at the minute 😢 thank you for replying

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Contact is back on and supervised my his mother. My youngest hates the social worker for putting grandma in charge because she won’t let him do anything she says no and it’s not fair (his words). If feel really rubbish at the minute barely sleeping her I am at 5.30 wide awake. My eldest seems to be picking up some of his trates now which scares me. I want to just pack up and disappear but then I’m isolated from my friends and family. I’m in a right pickle with myself I want to live and not just be a mear existence. My children are saying that they don’t know who is telling them the truth because dad tells them I lie and always have lots of boyfriends. I didn’t sign up to this and i don’t think some of my friends understand how draining it is. I feel like I’ve been released from prison on license if that makes sense. He believes that he has the right to know where his children are at all times so he knows his children are safe because they are his children

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Everything went as it needed to and he dug himself into a hole a per. Just read the cafcass report and he has lied apparently im jealous and manipulative espesially when he is settled in life i apparently abuse my children by rough handling them and calling them animals. I also was seeing other people in whilst married and he divorced me. All complete and utter lies i cant believe it

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I’ve been away from the internet for a while. Thank you for your comments i have been leaning on my outreach worker doing the freedom programme again going to survivors for support i am in court on Monday cafcass have been in touch. I am now worrying because he has a solicitor and i have my outreach worker. I am to do all the talking but i’m scared i will fluff it up completely. Oh well no going back i made a decision to do this to get things in order so i dont have to talk to him unless they children become ill etc…

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I need no contact but there is no order in place. He has told the kids he must know everything they do because he has to look out for them to make sure they are safe. I have a court order but it needs to be more precise even the womens centre have agreed my support worker remembers everything he did when i first accessed their services. I’m scared of how he will react once he receives the papers to return to court. He believes he is in the right he has told me his court order states he has the right to know what the kids are doing as they re his kids and i should be grateful he let me have residence.

I want to move on and meet someone else but he is sat on my shoulder chipping away at my head all the time i can’t even take steps to go for a drink yet. I don’t want my life to be like this any more or my kids they are being emotionally abused now and i cant bare it

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Thank you, I have spoken to NSPCC who really didn’t help matters they said i had to contact child services but every other professional who know my circumstances (doctor, Womans aid outreach, school, family hubs) have told me i don’t need to involve them. I want someone for my children to speak to because i don’t want to be accused of “putting words in their mouths”. I am in the process of (detail removed by Moderator) but i am scared of repercussions i don’t want to live like this any more i need to move on with my life…

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