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    • #41343
      Notsostrong
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      I don’t think so to be honest. I think they use addiction as a excuse but it’s not the addiction causing it!

      I had a gambling addiction for (detail removed by Moderator) years and never once thought about abusing my partner back.

    • #41074
      Notsostrong
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      My input, my kids dad doesn’t.

      I didn’t see it at first been young but I remember been with him before our kids when he had had his first from a previous relationship.

      I remember now the signs be let me and a friend take his daughter on a train for a day without him!! I only knew him a week!

      Second sign was I remember him saying something like he didn’t love it want that child .

      Now with my own kids and watching his first child for up even living together there was little affection. He would give them a cuddle before bed and say night always the the youngest one.

      Every now and then he would go into their room and give them a cuddle before bed but otherwise he got annoyed if they ran to him for a cuddle. School and nursery totally different again cuddles etc.

      Now when he first child messages or rang be would not answer once they tried calling him on Facebook for him to reply what do you want? the child replied nothing for him to say well leave me alone then!! Remember this child he only sees every second weekend.

      Now the reason he sees this child is because his mum forced him because he was only (detail removed by moderator) at the time otherwise he wouldn’t. Now he left this house 4 days ago and no contact at all from him. I expected something even a text asking how his other 5 kids are but no nothing.i let the youngest ring him last night to say night and he was detached said night and only said love you when one of the older kids did. Then he hung up.

      I know how this will end his family don’t want my kids that was clear they was happy with the first born. My kids never got a look in!! Today is my sons birthday and I know there will be contact from any of them

    • #40622
      Notsostrong
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      House is in my name etc be admitted he didn’t want to live here moved in because he felt he had to and that’s the only reason he has stayed!

      He said he’s mums offered him to go live back there but said no because he felt he had to stay.

      Now though he’s already spoke to 2 friends telling them he’s moving back home, he seemed upset at first but not so much now but still saying he will be gone by next weekend once his mum has his room cleared.

    • #40567
      Notsostrong
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      Thank you all so much every now and then I think maybe he doesn’t realise and will change but I soon get reminded that he won’t!!

      I have kept my self busy and occupied so not really listened much to what he’s said but since Thursday it’s harder to!!

      His son is here and broke into my private locked cupboard!! And his dad didn’t seem fussed just said he will tell him later. All weekend he’s been nasty to kids and again hours dad isn’t bothered just say upstairs ignoring us.

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