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    • #89477
      Orangeapple
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      Thank you. I had no idea other women were affected in the same ways as me and so many too. Ive coped alone looking for answers thinking there’s something wrong with me, until I found some books which showed me exactly what he was doing and I saw a light. Although it’s worse than ever now.

    • #89446
      Orangeapple
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      Hi hopscotch I totally relate to your situation, not being believed, and self doubting to the extreme, and then the exhaustion from the length of time. Something that helped me see the reality was the good you can see in others is actually the good you have in yourself. And tell those who don’t believe you that you need to leave their opinions with them, as it is not how it is, so you won’t be taking their thoughts on board. Ask questions rather than make statements, helping them to unpick their conclusion.

    • #89444
      Orangeapple
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      Women’s aid refer me to outside support and victim support can’t assist. I have a marker on my home, he doesn’t see my distress, I keep myself smart and tidy, and buoyant on the outside, Ive had no contact for (detail removed by moderator) now, his only feed back is from police, who ask him about things, he says no not me, and so he leaves, I’ve suggested they are a tool for him, and that they don,t talk to him without first having solid proof, he’s got them thinking he’s a victim of me too, by creating evidence against me. He won’t give up ever, he won’t move on, he has a relationship. I’ve not used social media for years. I cope by accepting this rather than by fearing it, I accept my fate and that helps me be okay, but it become harder since the police involvement against me, when they can’t help me. I’ve had high police involvement for (detail removed by moderator). Thank you for your reply, you’ve given me hope to wait for his slip up.

       

    • #89442
      Orangeapple
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      Thank you I’m not alone in trying to relocate to a safer place. I’ll try shelterline too

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