Purplewoman

[Purplewoman]

Hello. It’s a risk assessment. A group of people like police and other agencies have a meeting. They look at info you have provided from GP or Domestic violence worker. They will do safety planning and make sure it’s in place.

If you need to access legal advice it can help to have a letter. I had one when I went to Dr regarding abusive ex-husband.

I was classified as having a high risk of domestic violence.

Don’t worry it’s there to help you.

[Purplewoman]

It’s difficult especially when they are bonded to their dad. I’m afraid we need to be honest in an age appropriate manner. I am going to leave soon, and I know the youngest is going to be distraught. You just have to take it one day at a time, children are adaptable. Well done for leaving it’s never easy. And it will get better, their will be good and bad days. I do feel excited about leaving, however I will have to deal with the fall out when it comes. So I am trying to prepare myself for the worst.

I have to contact the council and if they can assist me then I’m more or less be able to pack up and leave. So many emotions will be felt, but it’s the only way to not be a direct target of abuse. I have found a place and just need to secure it. Fingers cross everything goes to plan. I have been planning for (detail removed by moderator) years, and the day is coming near to leave. I wanted to do it years ago, but I had to get so many things into place. It’s not easy when you have children. I know the ex-husband will use every trick in the book.

[Purplewoman]

I meant to say. I have been financially abused and experienced emontional abuse. I hope you are able to rest. I’m sure your mind is racing. It will take time to recover.

[Purplewoman]

Hello Pinklady. Well done.Take one step at a time. Be kind to your self. There will be many emotions. Take all the support you can. No one deserves abuse. I too am plotting my escape as I too so you are not alone. We are here for you. Keep strong.

[Purplewoman]

Thanks KIP for your advice. I’m so scared as oldest child has mobile and he may manipulate to get kids home. She is extremly loyal to her dad. I wouldnt put it past him. I don’t want to go to a refuge.Although I have thought about it. They have been brainwashed. I will try to rent somewhere asap. It’s just taking the leap of faith.

[Purplewoman]

Hi KIP
I have put up with so much. It will take a while for paperwork to come through. And once he see all the sensitive info regarding our children. It won’t be emontionally safe for myself or my children. I plan to meet with dv support worker regarding housing. I had though of going into a refuge but don’t want to disrupt schooling.

Abuser make life difficult for everyone. (detail removed by Moderator) he’s extremly controlling wiwith chikdren and isolates them from me everyday. My father died recently so I feel quite vulnerable at the moment, not that he cares about that as he has zero empathy. I will make enquires to move out.

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