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any advice on how i can stop all the arguments?

most times they start coz i feel like he’s cheating, but he says he only speaks to girls when (detail removed by moderator). and yes i shouldn’t be with someone who is around drugs. but we usually start fighting coz I’m scared he’s cheating but he would never let me on his phone but one time he took my phoe out my hand and went through my messages. i always tell guys i have a boyfriend if my pals flirt with me. one guy had been sending me pictures, i hadn’t replied but he turned around and went mental at me coz some guy i don’t know sent me pictures. if i even touch his phone he grabs it away from me. but we are in a relationship on Facebook and he posts pictures of me on his snapchat. so everyone knows he’s in a relationship. I’m just para because my ex cheated on me with loads of people.

i want to get through this and make this work with him. tbh i do trust him more within the last week and don’t feel like he’s cheating anymore, but ill always be scared he is coz of my past. he doesn’t understand that though.

I’ve also been sexually assaulted in past by a few people and he gets mad when i don’t tell him why I’m depressed, i want to be open and tell him about my past, but i find it hard to talk about this with anyone. Any advice you can give me on how to be more open and tell him about my past?

i keep a lot to myself and i haven’t really told anyone my assualts,i want to tell him but I’m scared he goes after them.

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we’re the same, we have the same interests, like same food, music, smells, litrally everything we’re the same. he’s me as a guy.
he’s very smart this making me feel guilty and making me see things as my fault even if I’ve done nothing wrong. he has a go at me for being emotional and cry a lot when we fight, he says i put on the tears to make him feel bad. but i think if he saw how he was shouting at me he’d realise why I’m crying.
I’ve been in a abusive relationship before but he put his hands on me and made me do things i didn’t want too. kept me in the house for weeks, wouldn’t let me go home to my parents. i think maybe because was treated so bad in the past i just push everything he says and does to the side because he’s never put his hands on me.
where you say you can handle anger, i disagree. personally i have bad anger issues and when something triggers me i can’t help my actions or things i say.
i really do love him so much and i don’t want to give up on us, coz i know when we get past this rough patch we’ll be an amazing couple.

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your not a fxxk up, you were strong enough to escape your strong enough to get through this. I’m sure everyone has felt this way at some point but now your here and you have everyone who uses this page to help others and to get help, to help you through this.

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take it step by step, and take your time getting back to normal life. it’ll never go back to what we call call “normal” but it will get better. i was in an abusive relationship and felt the same after, find something to take your mind off things. i started knitting its a really good way to distract the brain and is also healthy for our brain as its teaching us to be patient and take our time. which is what you need.
always remember we’re all here to listen and give you advice about our past, we’re all here to help each other get through our hard times. stay strong.

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he doesn’t comment of my appearance badly, and tells me to dress and do my make up how i want. always reminds me I’m too pretty for him and over all too good for him. every time i meet his friends or member of his family say this to him as well. i just dont understand how he could know all this and still treat me like crap when he’s mad.

I’ve told him so many times if he doesn’t change i will end up leaving and when i do end it he breaks down into tears. i really can see in his eyes he loves me and he doesn’t mean to hurt me like this, but why would he continue to act this way, when he knows how hurt he gets when i do leave.

i know I’m stupid for going back but he’s honestly the best thing to happen to me, he makes me so happy, makes me feel loved, shows me off like a trophy, i could go on and on. its just his anger thats the problem but I’m too scared to say that too him.

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i really do believe he loves me and he just wants the best for me, but i feel he just doesn’t use the best way to show it. he’s had a bad time with ex’s being violent towards him, but he’s not got anything on his recorded for hitting woman. all this past crimes are to do with violence, I’m currently getting a clears law to check this for sure.

i don’t want to leave him because when its good we’re amazing together and i can’t imagine life without him now. I’ve never met someone i get along with on so many levels, its just his anger thats letting us down.

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