Scaredandlonely

[Scaredandlonely]

Thats a good way to describe them. Desperate.

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Omg that sounds like the husband! Yesterday he was making veiled threats then today he sends a txt saying he loves me! Seriously trying to mess with my head. I was dying to txt back asking if he loved me then why say what he said yesterday, but i decided not to as he wont tell the truth (he physically cant tell the truth about anything) and also i dont want to engage in that again as that was always his way of getting me back onside. Hed be nasty then all loving the next day, its become a cycle and now that i finally broke free theres no way im falling for that cr*p again.

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I know 😞

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Yea he probably is. He thought he had me where he wanted me, sat in the house all day with nowhere to go while he had all the freedom he wanted, he thought i was well and truly trapped, now hes furious and likely shocked that i left finally. How dare i ruin his idea of a ‘good marriage’ by leaving.

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I never thought of 101 if he msgs or anything again ill call them. Im seeing my WA lady tomorrow so ill let her know. He even has got ppl to try to add me on fb, i blocked them and i dont speak to any of his family and wont be either. Im gona have to ask my family not to pass on any msgs as it has upset me, they didnt intend to, they thought they ought to tell me, but it is his way of safely making threats to me but without me having proof. Hes so sly it creeps me out. Hes gona try and make my life hell forever i reckon as he is so angry that i actually walked. He never thought i would.

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Will the police not think im wasting their time? The txts arent threatening, hes too smart for that, thats why he verbally told my relative about my so called dangerous game rather than txt me. He knows this will set my anxiety off hugely as he knows i worry about everything. Again, hes getting to me even tho ive left him. I wonder if ill ever be free

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Walker, thats what my relative said, he could be bluffing to scare me, however there could be a letter in the post, but ive spoken to my solicitor and i havnt felt the need to inform his family about what was said, probably cause i have no interest or desire to get his attention or play silly mind games. It was my relatives (detail removed by Moderator) he came to, he mustve been to the house first and saw nobody was in, he was also asking where i am, he wasnt told.
FS, Hes probably realised now that its real as its been (detail removed by Moderator) days and ive not been in touch and also i blocked his access to my bank account, he wont like that as he treated my money like it was his. Id say my doing that has peed him right off. Xx

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Ahh right i understand now, id read it wrong sorry hon. So would him telling my relative what his solicitor said knowing itd get back to me be classed as abuse too? Its made me a bag of nerves wondering if ive made a mistake by leaving him

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So im in the wrong no matter what i do re texts? Yet hes ok to continually txt me and now visit my family? A letter from my solicitor is on its way to him stating i want zero contact, not sure if hes got it yet.

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Am i right to stay silent regarding him txting me? I want zero contact with him. I reckon thats why he visited my family cause i wont repky to txts and he knows if he sent me that via text id use it against him. He even tried to tell the cops the night i left him that he is the one who is scared, i couldnt believe it!! He is twisting everything and acting like the wronged man when i was the one driven to leave my home in the night with my kids. Now hes contacting my family to continue to try and scare me.

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I am pretty far away from him, though he txtd to say he was coming to get the kids tomorrow and i rang my WA rep and she advised me to lie low in case he comes to town and drives around looking for me. Once he gets the letter if he continues i can get a non mol, hes not gona let me move on, he will be fuming that his threats stopped working. Hes sly. And unpredictable. But im prepared for it as much as i can be

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Thankyou 😊 its the start of a battle now, but i wont allow him to control me any more. Looks like fate wasnt gona allow me to stay there.

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I was thinking the exact same 48 hours ago. I wanted, needed out but didnt know how. Fate decided for me. Or rather a friend. She called the police to my house and i got out. It wasnt easy, nor pleasant, highly stressful, but me and my kids are now away and safe and free. Theres the legal stuff to work thru now, starting over, housing, etc, but now i have space i feel that yes ive done the right thing. My wee boy danced round lastnight cause he was allowed some cereal…..husband never allowed this. Such a simple thing made my child smile, i knew id done the right thing. Womens aid are helping me and they are amazing. My rep has been by my side the whole way thru.

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Ive been thru the court process before, dreading it. But i have good support so hoping they get me thru it

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Thankyou ladies. Ill keep you all posted

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