Stillherebutnotme

[Stillherebutnotme]

They must have an abusers handbook they all use. I have been put through the same. Accused of cheating since the start, demanding (detail removed by Moderator), and then found out he has been the one cheating on me. Which I never got an apology for and told it was my own fault. The constant checking up, wanting to see my phone. It is exhausting, I wish I could give you a big hug

[Stillherebutnotme]

My ex partner does the same. I wonder if he really believes his own “truth” as he calls it or does he know what he’s saying is lies and he makes a choice to say them.
Calling him out is the worst choice, I’ve learnt that the hard way. Agreeing doesn’t seem to make him happy either but it doesn’t leave bruises.

I think playing along, saying as little as possible and then once it’s safe, getting the hell out is our best option.

If he’s left, make sure he doesn’t come back and remember that you are not crazy, or abusive. You were happy once and can be again x

[Stillherebutnotme]

Thank you. It’s good to know that someone thinks I’m not being ridiculous, even if I am in other ways. I had started to track things before but he found out and it made things worse. I even made recordings of him in his rages so I could listen back to what he said. He says so much and chops and changes that I get confused and if I’m not 100% accurate in recalling it he says (detail removed by moderator). He remembers everything and I’m so forgetful.

The police have been involved before (detail removed by moderator).

He’s taking steps to change with counselling and (detail removed by moderator) and initially took responsibility but with each day he’s putting more and more of it back on me.
(Detail removed by moderator). From here on I need to be better at remembering things or finding a time to write it down without him seeing me.

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