Thank you for your post. I have several health problems and am registered disabled. Part of the reason I loved my abusive ex so much was that he was so helpful and caring, taking me to hospital appts, working out what to explain to doctors and helping me to manage and remember my medication but he also had terrible mood swings and lashed out, physically and verbally and was very controlling. I couldn’t see him for what he really was. I know that he used to make terrible comments about certain types of people, like ….. should be burnt at birth, but then he would say, he didnt mean it, other-times he would say he did think this, and then repeat it.
I couldn’t take in that he really meant these things but lots of other people think he did. I wonder why I accept so much awful things to be said in my life. Why did I feel more sorry for him than myself ? I still do, Im upset for him about how he behaves ? Is that normal?
