Yellowdiamond

[Yellowdiamond]

Well done for leaving! What you are going through and feeling is all totally normal after what you have been through. You have been conditioned to think like this by them. I am still very early days in leaving but no contact is totally the best way and it’s gets easier each day! People like this will always appear to have changed and act and behave differently to make you believe this but in reality they never change and things will normally be fine for a while but will very quickly slip back to how they were before… if not worse!

[Yellowdiamond]

So it’s all been reported, I have decided to just log it and not take any further action but the info will be there should any future partner checks. My friend was with me for support and he actually contacted her and after reading the messages I am shocked at how delusional he is, thinking they can be friends and saying there are two sides to every story however he did admit to hitting me. I have him blocked on everything so he can’t contact me but I really don’t understand why he has reached out to my friend, is this something that happens a lot? It was late at night so I imagine he was going through one of his drug binges to even think that was a good idea. He also asked her in the messages to pass on messages to me, why is he doing this?

[Yellowdiamond]

I have now blocked him on everything however he has managed to still leave a VM on my phone. (Detail removed by moderator) and would involve us communicating which I don’t want to do, it would just be easier for him to (detail removed by moderator) (don’t think he can due to credit). The fee I have to pay to cancel this is quite large but I have been informed that if I report this to the police then they will waiver the fee and cancel for me so I took the step yesterday to report him for what he has done and they are coming to see me today. I am not sure if I will take it any further than reporting it but it will allow me to cut that final cord that is allowing him to keep contacting me and after that there is no reason for us to be in contact. I am also just going to let go of the money he owes me after speaking with friends, it’s a small price to pay I think x

[Yellowdiamond]

Yes I do think there is an element of that as I have been told stories by multiple people close to him throughout so this can’t be a first time thing. Thanks for your suggestion I have downloaded the book and plan to start it tonight. x

[Yellowdiamond]

No I haven’t but I will definitely have a look at it. I have been doing more and more research and am slowly coming to terms with the fact that this is who he is but still that small part of me thinks was it my fault, could I have done things differently, did I deserve it etc. Absolute madness how it takes hold of you like that and that is the most frustrating thing. x

[Yellowdiamond]

Hi,

Thanks for your response.

I have spoken to the GP and am now on medication and am doing weekly counselling to try and understand my feelings. It’s very difficult to accept and he ended it too which makes it harder to deal with but suppose that is all about the control. I suppose it’s hard to understand how some people can behave in that way and think its acceptable. x

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