Bluelines

[Bluelines]

Hi

I’m (detail removed by moderator) years out , the triggers do lessen over time and more importantly you learn to recognise them and accept the feelings knowing they WILL pass

I will retreat too but sometimes fiends come along at the right time to give you a lift

Know that every time you overcome a set back you are stronger and healing

Take care

[Bluelines]

Hi
I’ve done this too
I’ve shut myself off from friends as I feel they can’t understand my pain and relate to me
I’m not proud of it

I also have the boundaries you describe
Someone told me I was being ridiculous yesterday and that made derogatory comments about my personal life
I just walked away end of conversation and will not reopen that door

There are still some friends I care deeply about and value but I definitely have less friends
I don’t know if it’s good or bad

I think I have become colder

[Bluelines]

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A list of numbers for personal support units

[Bluelines]

Some courts run a personal support unit and they can give you free advice and refer you to the pro bono unit
Your mp , citizens advise and some law centres may be appli to refer you too
They were really helpful and although they couldn’t find me a barrister for my court date they did really try
Just google bar pro bono

[Bluelines]

My ex threatened me with social services for a year. held it over me like a weapon.

When they finally rung I broke down and told them everything .
I have non-molestaion order against him (for less than what you went through btw) > i was terrified of loosing my kids and scared I wasnt a perfect mother
They dismissed his complaint it in 5 minutes. an said it was clear he was using them to harrass me.

I know its so so hard but have faith . they are used to this type of personality and will see though it

CAll NCDV they can help you write a statement for free and if you are eligible provide legal assistance to get protection (non-mol or occupation order) 0800 9702070

dont worry about the police this time, its hit and miss whether you get a good officer but log every single abusive event he does with them via 101. Or go back to them Im my experience They are nice on the phone and helpful and will help your case and call them again if you need them. ask for their victim support or domestic violence unit and then you may get someone sensible

Please stay strong and dont give up

[Bluelines]

My ex had been threatening to do this for a year, making false allegations against my partner any time there was disagreement and when i refused to give him my address. I was like you really worried
He then put in a child arrangements order initially not stating concerns, but hen when my return form described domestic abuse he made these allegations to cafcass. They in turn told services. When my call from SS came (detail removed by moderator) (on the same day as an extremely nasty email from their solicitor)I just broke down and sobbed.
However, they had already sized him up and a had a brief call when they said,as there is a non-molestation order in place and he only raised concerns after this and (detail removed by moderator), it was just him trying to harrass me and they closed the file.

So dont worry they are very kind and supportive and are used to these games abusers play. They will see the truth quickly

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