determinedtobefree

[determinedtobefree]

The question I ask myself is did he ever feel bad or guilty when he made me cry? Did he ever feel bad when he hit me and controlled every aspect of my life? The answer is NO.we can make excuses and allow them to make us feel bad for taking the step to leave but that is just it .they are excuses.they won’t change.guess it’s up to us to continue making the stand and live the life we deserve.

[determinedtobefree]

I have. Pm me if u want to talk.not sure I can be of much help tho

[determinedtobefree]

Remember when I first left and had thoughts of going back , the advice staff at the refuge gave me.that if I went back he would get worse, that thought has kept me away.im not saying there was times I still thought he could change or had changed.but deep down I knew I deserved better as do you.you deserve to be happy and free .

[determinedtobefree]

Thank you all for the replies and support.ive moved to a new country and I think finally being away from the area has given me the chance to relax and at times all this mess hits me in the face.is just really hard at times.

[determinedtobefree]

Just wanted to send u my support.my youngest is also with her father.througg her own choice.understand the hurt this causes. Also how guilt it leaves one feeling.but that guilt is not ours. We can only ever be here when they see the truth for themselves.my belief is one day they will see it.they will then understand the reasoning in our actions.take care of yourself in the meantime and remember you aren’t to blame for any of this.

[determinedtobefree]

No hes NOT a man.I sense he’s wanting to show that he has the control, possibly want you to be scared that he can take your child whenever he chooses , possibly make you that scared of leaving for that reason.just my opinion.

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