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[feelinglost]

Hi Princess234
Remember to stick to the truth and if you are unsure of the question his barrister asks you ask them to repeat the question and take your time in answering their questions they will ask you similar questions to try and get you tell different answers and they will even ask a question wait for your response and tell you that that event didn’t happen they will even tell you are lying you know the truth and you are there to tell the truth. keep calm and just stick to the truth it is hard and it will be tough but this is your time to stand up to him and tell everyone what has happened and what he is truly like.

You will be okay stay strong and belive in yourself you are telling the truth he is lying and remember the judge and jury see people like them all the time and know what they are doing have faith. It’s okay to get upset and remember you can ask for a break if you need on, the judge may ask you if you get upset if you need to take a break.

Go over your statement and if you have a close family member or close friend ask them to ask you questions against your statement if you feel like you can if you don’t feel like you can then thats okay to just read through it.

Remember his defence/barrister are being paid by him they are there to do a a job it feels crap and it doesn’t make it easier I know. I hope you have legal help if you have your barrister will be able to cross examine him and he will be caught out in his lies as it’s harder to remember the last lie and keep up the lie but you don’t you are telling truth your story.

Thinking of you its hard but you have come this far you are stronger than you think ! ask again for the screen it may make it easier as you won’t see him as your giving your evidence.

[feelinglost]

Thank you for responding and for your support I’m trying to get back up and brush off once again. After speaking to the school again and my solicitor and my DV worker feeling a bit better today.
I know I can hold my head high knowing I’m telling the truth thank you again for your messages.

[feelinglost]

we will never truly be able to understand the minds of our perps. I was once told that in order for them to be able to abuse/control us is that they have to have appear to others that they are this kind, attentive loving character they do this in order to gain control so that when you leave or try to leave they are then able to convince us that we are the liars and we are the the ones who need help.
Remember that the abuse was never your fault you could have moved mountains for them and they would still be able to find fault in your actions they will never take responsibility for what they have done it will always be someone else’s fault.
Try and stay strong for your children remember you are their voice!Try and stay calm when talking to the social services as you explain what has happened and as you listen to what he has said its hurtful remember its okay to get upset have you got any family members of yours or friends that can be there for you too?

Have you tried calling you local women’s aid to get advice?

Sorry I’m not much help thinking of you and your children xx

[feelinglost]

Emeli Sandě read all about it part 3

You’ve got the words to change a nation
But you’re biting your tongue
You’ve spent a life time stuck in silence
Afraid you’ll say something wrong
If no one ever hears it how we gonna learn your song?

So come on, come on
Come on, come on

You’ve got a heart as loud as lions
So why let your voice be tamed?
Maybe we’re a little different
There’s no need to be ashamed
You’ve got the light to fight the shadows
So stop hiding it away

Come on, come on

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[feelinglost]

thank you for responding.
I didn’t think the police would get involved as he used to say they would just say it was a domestic disturbance if that was a family matter as he was always falling out with his family members when we were together,so I believed that they would just say he was attempting to drop gifts off for the children. (I never reported any of the incidences to the police of what happened during our relationship and after I do have a (removed by moderator) worker she is due to come over next week).
If I reported it now would it not be too late?

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