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    • #158855
      Flower01
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      Thank you Lisa for your advise I really appreciate it. This person is very storbon and they don’t care about my safety which is horrible but I will call police or phone women Aid if things get worse

    • #158597
      Flower01
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      Thank you Twisted sister that is right what your saying he will try his best to get in to my house and use my kids to do that I would never let him inside my children seen everything we went thought and it keeps happing ab there is no way I want him near me again.

    • #158347
      Flower01
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      Hello grey rock it’s never a good idea for someone to tell me to go back with my kids dad this person thinks it will make my children feel better I don’t understand that they don’t everything I’ve been thought and I’ve been told that one of my children will do something bad to me of I don’t go back with him ime not scared because that can’t be true I don’t understand why this person would say this I can’t say what person it was because I got to be careful but it just don’t make senxe to me . The thing Is my kids can see there dad but I feel it’s makeing things worse with one of my children I agree with you if I went back it word traumatised Me because he will just be the same as before or even worse

    • #158346
      Flower01
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      Thank you for caring Lisa it’s right what your saying that abusers don’t change as his always been like this and he still is it has affected my children to and he made things worse for them so I think there is no way I would listen to this listen to this person and go back to him

      Ime still feeling stress but things will get better

    • #158222
      Flower01
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      Hello my name I understand what your going thought as I’ve been thought it my self and it’s not a easy situation to . I understand you have feelings for him even thoe you have been thought domestic violence with him my advice would be Is to get away and have a break and see how you feel I know it’s hard but usually men like this never change you need to have your own space and make sure your child is away from the abuse because children will learn from the abuse and think it’s the right way to treat someone the man thing is for you and your child safety it taken me time to think I should leave my x boyfriend but when things where geting to much that was it I had to leave him I did not want my kids to suffer anymore please try and take that step and leave for know to see how things are and get some support from women aid and domestic violence helpline they are both really good please don’t leave it to late to leave you will be okay and you can work things out with him when things settle down but with Mr it’s the best thing I did was to leave my xboyfriend because I was free of abuse and my kids liveing in fear I felt more relaxed untill he started again with his abuse but I take accation with that to .

    • #158050
      Flower01
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      I don’t think he will ever change to be honest because once a man is abusive he will always have that in him my xboyfriend is abusive and he still is know at times once children see the abusive it sticks with them for a long time and it’s not easy for them to get over the situation that they seen there dad abusive I understand you may have feelings for him please just be careful and look after your self and your children I’ve been going thought abusive for a while and I had to get non molestation orders because the dad was horrible to me and my children and I just don’t like the behaviour

    • #158045
      Flower01
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      Hello purplecupcake

      I was in the same situation as you before and all I did was just run away when it was safe to but first of all I got advice from women aid of how to leave safely so my x boyfriend would not notice anything it cause me alot of anxiety but i did it .with your tenancy please don’t worry just make your self safe and leave when you can women aid will put you in a safe place away from him you will be okay take it easy. I got away safely with my children when I ran away I was still in a tenancy agreement with my xboyfriend I only payed rent untill I left then my xboyfriend was liveing in the house on his own so he had to pay the rest of the rent for all the times he was there everything will go your way don’t worry sending big hugs

    • #157914
      Flower01
      Participant

      Hello Jessica Jones sorry for what your going thought I understand. Please take things easy and I found women aid was more use to me than the police to be honest they will help you 100% they did with me and I left my ex boyfriend safe with my children Please talk to women aid phone them up when your in a safe place you can even chat on line if that is better even do that when you go to the toilet then he will not know what your doing it’s very important that you keep safe . (detail removed by Moderator) I hope you get the help you need your not alone keep strong

    • #157913
      Flower01
      Participant

      Hello looking up I understand how you feel I know its hard but try and look after your self and take time out to make your self happy like go to watch a film have a cup of tea with a friend just find your own happiness because his not worth your time to think what he said and done to make your self ill his not worth it I understand the pain your going thought but as time goes by you will find life more better to deal with sending you hugs keep strong

    • #157910
      Flower01
      Participant

      Here for help thank you so much

    • #157904
      Flower01
      Participant

      Thank you Twisted sister

    • #157886
      Flower01
      Participant

      Hello i’me so proud of you that you left him it’s one big step to take and its not easy as I had to do it my seif but its the best thing to do as we don’t need abusive men in our life.

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