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[Gazebo]

He’s so convinced we will sort things out….dreading my evening evening much as he’s going to be home 🙁 no way I can buy him out he could probably afford to keep thr house as he pays the bills now xx

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Thank you so much both its so hard as they completely put the guilt trip on, and suddenly he’s now trying to help out more oh I’ll put the kids to bed ill get up with them..its all a bitnyo late though and within 24 hrs of me saying he needed to back off with the messages I had 3 digging at me…..he’s (detail removed by moderator) I’m absolutely dreading it xx I have spoken with women’s aid and she is going to organise me some counselling so I can definitely use that to help me. Does anyone know how things work with tht house its joint mortgage but my money doesn’t cover the bills his do I couldn’t manage it on my own would we have to sell up….. xx

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Hope everyone is doing OK- I’ve actually this week actually told my husband exactly how I feel that i don’t want to have sex anymore and how i can’t tell him I love him…I wasn’t expecting to have this conversation so soon but he sent me a horrible message because I’d said no to sex the night before so I thought this is my one opportunity to fight back…he’s not happy and said I can’t split our family up threatened if we did he’s taken one of the children! The part I hate is I felt so close to feeling we were splitting up and now he’s sending me tons of links to marriage counselling and getting us closer together again…I feel like he’s going to win again I’ll get ground down and give in and everything I said will be for nothing:-( xx

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Thank you private lady and banana boat he is exactly like this my stomach goes as soon as I see its him. I actually said (detail removed by moderator) it needs to stop his messages are constant and full on he said (detail removed by moderator) I just can’t do that anymore and I’m so fee uo of him twisting things so I end up backing down and saying yes I’ll make more effort as right now I know I can’t. I get thr constant if I’m sat on my phone what you up to what you looking at…you were along time dropping the kids off..(detail removed by moderator)..frustattes me as thsts exactly what I was doing!! Soon as I said stop harassing me it feels like he’s up tht anti w days later I got while I was at work (detail removed by moderator) I’d only be gone (detail removed by moderator). He alsk keeps telling me to go to thr docs to get medication he seems to think that will sort me out 🙁 xx sorry waffling just need go get it out xxx

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Thank you- it will likely start a row over messaging and he will throw it back at me and twist things he just seems completely oblivious to his harassing and behaviour xx

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It’s so so hard – I try not to check my phone in thr night now when my little one wakss but every day or morning they’re is a message of some sort today I’ve had one already saying (removed by moderator)….
It makes me want to cry so much as he wants a response he basically wants me to say something like oh yes me to but it’s never going to happen I’ve laughed it off for now but I know the moody message will come later xx

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It’s been a while since I’ve been on here but thi has are no better and I stupidly agreed to marriage counselling we started on (detail removed by moderator) and I hated it 🙁 giving us little projects to work on and typically he’s getting obsessed with it andnoushing to do it all when I really don’t want to. I feel sick tonight as he’s planning a date night indoors I’m actually dreading it and going to try and drink though it. The only plus to come out of all this since I told him how I felt is I’ve not had to have sex with him which is a big relief xx

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Thank you I feel guilty sometimes but then I think I’ve put up with this for so long I want to feel happy and I know inwont straight away but I can’t live like this forever xxxx

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Exactly what mine is doing putting the kids to bed tonight can’t remember thr last time he did that and has brought drinks and nibbles but I feel tht same all to late xx how long have you been together/ when did you say it was over to him xx

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Sending hugs I’m useless at any advice as I’m still stuck i have been getting some advice this week but to be honest it’s making me feel more scared and guilty:-( xxx stay strong xxx

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Can i ask how you left? How long did it take you. How did he react xx glad your doing OK now zx

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He gets really grumpy and moody if I don’t respond and has a go at me for not responding xx I cant win xx I try not to respond but he then gefs really cross so I reply and try and skip over it or laugh it off but he still gets grumpy xx

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Thank you hawthorn my doctor is aware as he actually sent me to thr doctor to find out what was wrong with my sex drive and while in their I broke down and told her stuff then so she has stuff noted for me already xx he says your my wife you should want to do this and would never sort himself out so say as why should he when he has a wife 🙁 xx

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So sorry to hear that secretlife i hope your ok xx x

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Thank you kip xx I will look into that for sure xx I feel in a daze today and don’t know what to say just feel so unhappy xx

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