Ohshesbloomin22

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Thank you so much.

The final push now.

I’ve got a bag already at a family members, I have an emergency bag here that im preparing. With birth certificates, important letters etc.

Any advice on what to take?

Warmest wishes right back to yu

xXx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Hi Twisted sister;

I have some good news.

I’ve spoken to refuge again and they told me the day before I’m ready to leave to call them and they help me find a refuge space. They were very understanding. I have a day I’m able to escape (detail removed by Moderator). So I’m just preparing and getting everything in place . This is my only chance.

I spoke to the solicitors as they haven’t even contacted me about taking a statement. It’s been over a week. And they apologised and are getting somewhere to contact me this week. This was on Monday.

I’ve found a IDVA, who I’m having a call with tomorrow, as my support worker just isn’t emailing me back, I spoke to her on Friday asking what’s emergency housing like from the council, what’s happened to other ladies who have had to flee. No response. I don’t get it as on their website it says they can help find temporary accommodation, but when you ask for it they can’t then ignore you when you have questions. But onwards and upwards. I’m the only person who can change this.

I have been feeling rather low, but I’m getting my strength back. It’s like this inner strength. I’m ready for freedom. I ready for a happy life.

Xxx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Hi Killingmesoftly thank you for replying.

What was your experience with dealing with the police? We’re they helpful?

Yeah I think the managed move is something I would consider in the future. If needed.

Did you stay at your home? Or did you move?

I’m really struggling getting help to stay at home.

I have a chance to get away (detail removed by Moderator), so I’m just going to take it. As I can’t bare the environment. Everything I want to do he’s like no you’re not.

Speak soon

Xx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Yeah that’s correct. I can’t believe it.

Refuges are saying they won’t be used as a stepping stone, I spoke to refuge via online chat and they said the same thing.

I’ve been ready to leave since Friday.

Maybe it’s best not to mention the order and escape then get that all in place once I’ve gone. I feel saying I have a plan, is it making it more difficult. When in reality it shouldn’t.

I’ll speak to a womens aid worker tomorrow. And see if they can help me.
But I feel I should just escape to a refuge with the kids, as I need to get away. He’s never going to go away, he’s looking for his own place and he still says, I hope you know I’m not going.
WTH.

Xx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Hi Twisted sister,

Thank you for replying again. I really appreciate having someone to talk to.

I feel rather rubbish tbh, as not even my Housing association, will help me. All they can offer is a management move.

All I can do is ask the council for emergency housing, but my support worker just says it could be anywhere. It’s like she’s putting me off. Because I want to return home.

I don’t drive, I have a child with additional needs. I really need support.

So now I don’t know what to do.

It’s taking me so long to get to this point, I’m ready to go.
But now it’s just set backs.

I can’t just sit and wait for him to go, he’s never going to go.
And I can’t get the injunction with him here, as it’s not safe.

Sorry for rambling.

I hope you’re okay 💕

Xx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Hiya,

I spoke to refuge, and they are basically saying the same thing.
They said refuge is a type of emergency accommodation but it is a full program unfortunately not just a roof over your head.

And every refuge is different and it will be hard for me to get into one on a temporary basis.

I feel deflated Tbh, I thought refuges were a safe place for everyone.

I don’t really know what to do, I’ve built myself up to get to this point. And I have no where to go.

Xx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Hey twisted sister

Thank you so much for replying.

Those were my thoughts exactly I thought refuges were a safe place. But she’s saying she’s asked some refuges and they won’t accept me. And they don’t like people to plan, only in an emergency. But I see on all the help pages, contact a refuge. I’m so confused why would she tell me this?

I’m speaking to her tomorrow so I shall bring this up, I’ll have a word with refuge/ womens aid too . I said to her the reason I want to go to the refuge is for the added support. I don’t want to just be put in emergency housing and just left.

Thanks for your advice I’ll def follow it all up and ask for a second opinion.

Warmest of wishes right back at you

Xxx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Thank yu, for your responses.

I’ve had a Google of travel warrants but I can’t see much. So I’m just going to wait and see. It’s me overthinking.

I’m doing good, everything is coming together. I can’t obviously go into details but it’s going to be very soon. I keep having waves of anxiety but It’s like I’ve got this inner strength.

Time to be free. Xxx

I hope you’re okay and safe xx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Hiya hun;

Well done for getting this far. And I wish you so much luck on getting out with your son.

I feel I’m at the exact same stage as you. Im just getting the final bits in place before I leave with my children.

My (detail removed by Moderator) has autism and is awaiting an (detail removed by Moderator). All I keep thinking about is how he is going to cope, but I know I’m the long run we will all be better without the abuser.

Please let me know how you both get on.

Stay safe, you’ve got this.

Xxxx

[Ohshesbloomin22]

Hey,
Thank you for your response!

I haven’t managed to speak to a refuge yet as I want to get everything in place so I’m ready to go.

I plan to leave next week, so I’m going to contact a local domestic abuse company who help with rehousing. They said to contact them a few days before I want to leave.

My sons only recently been given a autism diagnosis.

Have you had to flee?

Thank you it’s taken a long time to get to this place. But I’m finally ready!

Xx

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