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its really hard for women or it was for me to even realise i was suffering abuse because it was not physical it was all mental and emotional, it started small and got more and more over time it was so gradual that I didnt even know what was happeing, I just thought that I had annoyed him done things wrong that i didnt even realise where wrong. That i had to do certain things dress a certain way to please him because that’s what you do in a relationship, he was my first proper serious relationship I was only (detail removed by Moderator) when we got together so I didnt know. If there was physical abuse aswell maybe I would have realise before all this mess happened. I thought i had mental health issues but it turns out the only thing wrong with my mental health was him.
I think alot of people still only see domestic abuse as the violence if there is no bruises then nothing is happening. So many people still seem to be blind to the emotional and mental abuse, they know it happens but if it isnt alongside physical abuse they dont see it, if that makes sense xx

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Welcome. Hope this forum helps you as much as it does me. xx

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ive had this mentioned to me a few times, Its something that I am thinking of looking into. I am feeling stronger all the time and feeling loads better in just these few weeks but i guess the more I do the more I will heal and stronger I will be.
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Thank you. I’m hoping it helps me, only time will tell xx

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My local Womans centre referred me for it xx

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Thank you I’m hoping it helps xx

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Thanks for your reply. I too hate crying Infront of people. It’s a phone call so luckily I won’t be seen only heard. Xx

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Thank you for your reply. I’m actually seeing my solicitor about it all on (detail removed by Moderator) xx

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Thanks
From what the lady told me it’s about noticing the signs of abuse before it starts and different tactics the abuser uses also things to help self esteem and confidence xx

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Thanks. I’m just trying to find me again rather than who he wanted me to be
I’m so happy that you are feeling happy to.
I still have my bad days but they are way outnumbered by the good xx

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You will get there, stay strong lovely. There is always someone to talk to here. This forum has helped me so much in the little time I have been a member xx

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Thank you for your reply. Today I went out and bought new clothes ok not brand new just from the charity shop but completely different clothes to what he wanted me to wear, I’m not sure if they are quite Mt style but I’m going to give it a go and see what I think…. I am starting to find me again. I’m taking that as another positive xx

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Thank you for your reply. I hope so to, the only way is up things will get better from here on out xx

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Thank you for your reply. I feel stronger each day. Don’t get me wrong I do have bad days but I think that’s more because of not having my children with me at the moment. I know I need to keep being strong and getting myself sorted so that I can prove I am fit to look after my children.
Everyone involved is telling me I’m doing well and it’s all looking positive. I’m hoping for the best but these things do take time. Xx

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Thanks Darcy for your reply.
He really is pathetic, its like hes trying to convince me I have done these things when I havent, that may use to have worked but im stronger now than I was then and I can see right through it all. I know whats hes trying and its not going to work xx

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