Ripon123

[Ripon123]

Hi ladies, thank you so much for your responses and support! You’ve brightened up a rather dark morning here. The sulking/silent treatment still continues.
I’m just waiting for him to realise it’s not working and go wild at me for not doing enough to make him feel better!
I don’t really know where to go for support at the moment. I spoke to WA and they passed me to a local one. After pouring out intimate details that were highly embarrassing the women announced she knew me 😳 passed me to her manger but her manger who I think was meant to suggest more help but didn’t just said to ring back the women I knew if I have any problems. Which I don’t really want to do. She knows some of my friends. Plus I don’t even know what to say to her because I’m not strong enough or ready to leave yet.
Suggestions would be hugely appreciated.
I’m going to look into a book or something when he goes on nights just scared he finds it on my phone or something 💖 thanks again you all are amazing

[Ripon123]

He does work so would need to pay the bills and things. And for me completely I’d be entitled to nothing. Thank you so, so much for your advice. Means the world you’ve took the time out to responded xx

[Ripon123]

Yeah that’s it. I claim benefits I’m disabled and unable to work. If I declare he lives with me that’ll be taken off me. He’ll be expected to pay. But won’t so obviously has told me I’m not telling anyone. His move in was meant to be temporary so didn’t matter but he’s been here a long time now and isn’t planning on leaving. It’s me who should declare and lose my money. But he would go crazy if I did and not pay. But it’s me that would be charged with benefit fraud. So I don’t feel I can highlight myself to anyone because I’d have to highlight we loving together which I can’t do. Without risking been found out which would lead to him going crazy and me been in massive trouble xx

[Ripon123]

I just don’t dare make my situation known to anyone in case they start proceedings about living together. It’s my home so I’ll be charge not him. Then he will know I’ve said something too

[Ripon123]

As always ladies. Inspiring and reassuring words. You are all honestly amazing 💖 thank you for your responses

[Ripon123]

Hi Lottieblue, it messes with your head something terrible doesn’t it. I’m still hopeful someone might give us more insight. I’m too scared of him when he’s angry to leave in an argument/lecture. But then surly I can’t just leave one day with no good reason or what seems like no good reason. Hope this message finds you well. Thanks for your response xx

[Ripon123]

Thank you for your replies 💖 you brave women who have left are such an inspiration you must be so strong! I love him so much. Sometimes I want to leave but I’m too frightened, other times I don’t want to be away from him. I just want him to be nice always. I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that maybe that’s not a possibility and this won’t stop

[Ripon123]

Thank you both so much for taking the time to write back to me. You really don’t know what it means I feel a little less alone. I didn’t know if anyone would respond. Like you I fight it but eventually give in. It’s just becoming more and more specially with lock down keeping him bored ☹️

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