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[Shoop]

So sorry you are experiencing this, sounds pretty similar to my own life. Read up on the cycle of abuse and trauma bonds there’s lots of great podcasts on Spotify which have helped me loads by being able to notice the tactics he uses. I hope you and your baby find happiness 💓

[Shoop]

Wow thank you all for replying and sharing your experiences, I’m so disgusted that so many of us have gone through this

Luckily we do not live together so That takes some pressure off the situation. It is true about the cycle of abuse I am holding onto the good times but these incidents are becoming closer together and more extreme

I should add before he bit me he kicked the wall next to my head and swiped my makeup off counter and smashed up some pictures. It’s weird tho because I know this is so so toxic yet when I think of us not together and him giving love to another woman I get jealous. It’s so confusing

[Shoop]

Hey ladies

Sadly you all were right and he physically assaulted me, I’ve never seen him cry before and after it happened he cried I can’t help think that’s all part of the tactics? Also he said it was my fault and I was winding him up and playing the victim? He literally bit me and it felt like he broke my fingers.

[Shoop]

Hey,

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this I can only speak off my own personal experience but you’re definitely being emotionally manipulated by your ex, he seems like a horrible person and you really do not deserve that! The silent treatment is the worst I can imagine it sends you out of your mind at points. Seems like he’s still trying to hold onto that control now you have broken up by using your children as Amo. I hope you get the help you need and keep us updated stay safe xx

[Shoop]

Also I should add when I have confronted him about all of this he says he only does it as a reaction to something I have said. He makes me think it’s my fault and then I keep running through arguments actually thinking it could be my fault

[Shoop]

Hey ladies, thanks so much for taking the time to reply I know you’re all right because I know myself that he is not a good man. I’m really worried if I seek help they will take my baby away? How likely is this to happen xx

[Shoop]

Hi girls,

Thanks for replying I’ve read all your messages and it means a lot. I just wanted to vent and explain why I haven’t thanked you all for replying sooner. I’m sure you all know the script by now but things were going very well between us. However, that isn’t the case anymore. He has destroyed more of my property, compared me to my friends saying I’m lazy and incompetent when they’re ‘(removed by moderator)’. I also opened up to him about a previous sexual assault that happened to me and he has accused me of lying and then proceeded to tell me about other women who he has been with who have actually been through worse things than me. I’m at my wits end now, I’m almost always walking on egg shells as I feel like I cannot be myself and constantly have to filter myself incase I say something that triggers him. I’m in survival mode, but I don’t know how to leave and a part of me is still holding onto the good times x

[Shoop]

Hey thanks for replying! I will have a look at that today sounds like it fits me to a T, I often find myself scrolling through YouTube for information and and education on this topic. However, the more I wake up the more I feel he changes his tactics to re gain that control

[Shoop]

What is the number and is it 24hr helpline xx

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