Survivor123

[Survivor123]

This man is treating you bad and the only reason you are letting him do it is because you do not have the confidence to go alone.
Hes got you dangling on a string and he knows it,the more you allow him to get away with the more he will do it.
Get your self strong you are better than this,why do you want to be with someone who does not make you feel happy with your life .
Honestly you are better off without him,focus on you and making yourself the best person you can be,you will find much more happiness in that than he can give you.
Hope you get the strength you need.

[Survivor123]

Hey there I would just like to start off with saying you are all survivors and are stronger than you think you’ve just not realised it yet.
I was a victim for many years but I managed to get out with help from a fantastic DV worker,my plan is to work with wonderful ladies just like yourselves.
Everyone will say you need to find strength…but from where,you have been taken as low as you possibly could be and now you have to dig yourself out.
You probably think you cant cope on your own,you need him around to help raise your children but trust me when I say this,you have so much strength in you,you need to tell yourself.
If you’ve been isolated from your family ask yourself,would they really turn their back on you now?(you’ve got nothing to lose by trying).
You could try small steps to find yourself again,tell yourself you will not be controlled by him any more,you are free and you are going to live a good life with your children.
Sorry for the long post but I feel so much passion to try what I can to help,I know you can do this.
Keep believing in yourselves.

[Survivor123]

This really upsets me,this is why I want to start working with women who have been abused.
This man has stripped you of hour confidence first,you cant live without him,the children need a father.
If you had your confidence you would see that you dont need him,you need to build on yourself first.
Do you wake up every day feeling like this is a good day,I will be the best I can be today.
If you truly believe that you can have a good and healthy,happy relationship,why would you ask ,there must be doubts.
Listen you yourself if you have doubt then there is something wrong.
Make the best decision for you and your children xx

[Survivor123]

The sad thing with this is ,the other woman,she will be in the exact same place as you are right now.
Where do you see yourself in a year or two,still hanging on to the same person or would you like to see yourself living a better life and I’m not saying in another relationship but feeling better about yourself,more confident and happy.
Staying stuck in this rut is not going to be good for you live your life and have fun.

[Survivor123]

Can I just start by saying you’ve done the hardest part,you got away and that takes courage,so well done.
As for being a single mum,have you looked for child and parent groups,I know they’re not for everyone but it’s a start.
Look at what you have achieved since getting away,have you got a new home?have you made that house into a home for you and your child? Ask yourself what you have done and not just focus on what you haven’t.
As for having to lie about the situation you find yourself in you should have no shame,you’ve done nothing wrong and I know people’s reactions but that was also something that happened to you not who you are,I’ve been there done it and got the tee-shirt and you can make the change.
I really hope you find your strength x

[Survivor123]

Listen to your inner self,you know this isn’t right,to even speak to you that way is awful.
Perpetrators are weak and by being violent or to speak in an aggressive way that makes you feel low or scared is their way of making themselves feel better and you are not there for that.
You know what you have to do,the doubt you have is the fear,by facing that fear it will make you stronger.

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