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[Nolove]

KIP I spoke to staff here about residents carry on leaving the back doors unlocked and one of the staff said it’s because most residents feel safe here so thats just in validation of me still feeling unsafe. I’m going to feel this way until the day I die. Granted I suffer psychosis and paranoia. I looked on the CCTV footage of the back garden lastnight and I saw something really scary. Ofc this can be a big step up for abusers to abuse me because I have these challenges/vulnerabilities so it’s okay for abusers to abuse me. Defo one day at a time though, (detail removed by Moderator) 🙂 x

[Nolove]

Omg KIP that’s a brilliant idea! I do have a rape alarm. Idk how ide rig that up on my door though I’m a bit dumb lol. I’ll try and see what works! Thank you KIP! I would of never thought of that!

[Nolove]

My title was removed by a moderator because they dont want users to think a refuge isnt safe..I feel the front of the refuge is a lot safer but not the back. KIP I dont think the lock on my flat door should work, I dont think its broken but then I dont know why it’s there. I might look at alarms..

[Nolove]

I know KIP! Not fair on other residents that aren’t feeling as safe. What’s a brace KIP? I can’t actually lock my flat door..I dont know why? There is a lock but it doesn’t turn. I can only put a chain on my flat door but I’ve moved a bed side cabinet close to my flat door but idk what good that’s going to do..I’m not sure if people can open my flat door as far as the chain let’s them open it. This might be OTT but I feel like I need a bell on my flat door so I can hear if anyone opens it especially if I’m trying to sleep. I feel a bit uncomfortable sleeping if people could open my flat door as far as the chain goes. I’m not sure what you mean you used to sleep with a wedge under your door and drag your bed in front of your door too, maybe it’s a different setup.

[Nolove]

Okay thanks KIP x

[Nolove]

No lisa I’m not receiving emotional support in the refuge🙄 how do I receive emotional support from domestic abuse? I know there’s samaritans but there not experienced supporting someone emotionally that’s been through abuse?

[Nolove]

Omg wow is that what it is for? that sounds so understandable and relateable that trauma leaves little room to understand things. Thank you KIP x

[Nolove]

No I didn’t take all my stuff just a small suitcase which I hid behind the bins until I fled..my mum (the abuser) is still trying to be malicious she called the police saying I was missing which I’m not because I’m in a refuge and the day I got here I text my mum saying I’ve gone on a break adviced by the staff to do. So my mum knew I wasn’t missing and now I’m thinking everyone has alternative motives and plotting about me,wanting me to go back to my mums (the abuser) can womens aid refuge do that,? I’m petrified still..Idk if my feelings and thoughts are valid. I know fleeing an abuser isn’t easy at all but if people say it gets better when your in a refuge it flipping doesn’t. You still arrive there with all mental,physical,psychological trauma act. It doesn’t just stop when you get placed in a refuge especially if your living in fear you might have to go back..

[Nolove]

I got out when my abuser wasn’t at home. I took that opportunity.

[Nolove]

Hi and thank you x

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