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Hi, I am right there with you, I poured my heart out and begged mine not to leave (detail removed by Moderator). I know I should be stronger. It didn’t go well and made me feel worse.

I don’t know how to advise you because I am at that same point but everyone is telling me its OK to still feel that way about him but also know it’s not right and you can’t stay

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Thank you everyone for your support. I’ve found out for definite there is someone else. So all these things he’s accused me of and its him all along. I am utterly devastated. I feel like I’ve tried so hard to support him and understand his trust issues and he is on a mission to destroy me

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thanks everyone, I am really struggling tonight, I found more proof that he has found someone else and I cannot believe how much this hurts. I know he has been so awful but I am finding this so hard.

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Some of the things you describe I totally empathise with especially the stuff about sex. My husband would always be trying to grope me and then act all hurt when I was like get off please because I was busy, not in the mood, or the kids were in the room! I have also been in a position where I’ve just like led there and he hasn’t seemed to notice that I’m not really participating but then after I think well I didn’t actually tell him to stop so I get confused. I think if you feel that it’s not OK that’s enough, you don’t want to feel on edge and uncomfortable. Especially if he’s looking at your messages and making jokes about hugging colleagues etc, like that sort of behaviour was part of why I’d start acting differently and worrying about how other men spoke to me in case it became an issue. I don’t have any advice really I’m so sorry but you are not alone and if it doesn’t feel right that is a perfectly valid way to feel

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The look in his eyes when he’s saying it, it’s like he’s someone else, he has this specific scenarios which are just absurd. He said (detail removed by Moderator), but I just genuinely care about him despite how awful he is being. He keeps saying (detail removed by Moderator). I’m just so sad. He’s asleep now and therefore not being mean and I just want to go curl up next to him and forget it all. I know I should hate him but I can’t and this is just horrible

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I am so sorry you are going through this, I am going through a divorce, still living together with kids and he has literally just said I am emotionally abusing him cos I wont admit to having sex with other men, because I haven’t. It is so confusing isn’t it. You are not the bad one, your family know you aren’t. They are just really good at twisting things up. Stay strong 🙂

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Thank you so much for your kind words I’m so sorry you have had to go through similar. I can’t make myself believe this is all real it feels like I’m stuck in a nightmare I can’t get out of. He’s now spoken to some family and indicated that I don’t want to know what they said meaning he has spouted his accusations to them. I know I need to rise above but I’m so angry. And the saddest part is he will never wake up and realise or care what he has done. He will always think he is right

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Oh I get eye rolling if I try to say he’s being hurtful. And I’ve also had things like (detail removed by Moderator) just makes you feel powerless to speak up doesn’t it

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I’d never thought about the silent treatment in this way I thought he just didn’t know how to communicate. It was then really hard to know how to react and I got sick of always trying to think why he felt the way he did. I feel for you

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