Stella

[Stella]

This is similar to my situation.

I finally got the strength to call the police but wasn’t honest with them. We have a SW now but I’m still not being honest because I don’t want to make things worse and my teenagers just want to get off the cp plan.

He is supposed to come round certain days and times but is here nearly everyday, even when I’m out at work he comes over, having showers, pottering about, making himself food.

He is playing mind games still, shouts in my face, puts me down and calls me names, saying it’s me who needs help not him.

It’s driving me insane.

I can’t see a way out.

I hope you find the strength and is say that if your children are younger then be honest with the police and children’s services because it gets harder as the children get older.

I would go to the police and admit you were scared to be truthful in the beginning and get some sort of order in place so that he has to have supervised visits.

I know it’s easier said than done but sending you a great big hug and all the strength in the world ❤

[Stella]

Thank-you. I think I will end up having to go because I can’t take it for much longer. It’s making me ill (detail removed by Moderator).i would rather him just beat me up or something, it would hurt less than the emotional abuse and games and at least if I had physical evidence people would see how much its affecting me.
I’m glad you managed to get out x

[Stella]

Kitkat44 this sounds so much like my situation.
He cant see why the boys are like they are.
I cant tell them to not do the exact same things their dad is doing…e.g swearing, slamming stuff about etc the only difference with them is that they know when to stop and feel bad about things afterwards and don’t get personal like he does.

It’s pretty bad today…he just gets up in a ‘mood’ some days and that’s it!

I’m so embarrassed that my neighbor’s can hear all this and must think it’s my fault when they hear the boys swearing and answering him back…I feel like I try to avoid my neighbor’s now because of the embarrassment.

Stay strong, as I will, even though its extremely difficult. I also work at a school and feel bad that I’m protecting vulnerable children but have failed in protecting my own….

[Stella]

Thank-you for the support ladies.

I’m just too patient for my own good and put up with too much.
It takes ALOT for me to lose my temper and I don’t stay cross or hold grudges for long enough!

In general life my calm and kind nature is a good thing but in this relationship it just lets me down x

[Stella]

Thank you for the advice. It does seem like everything is against me…I now owe ££ (detail removed by moderator) to tax credits! I’m sure things will work out in the end just feels like everything is against me at the moment 🙄

[Stella]

Thanks for the advice. Sorry it’s taken a while to say Thank-you. Things are worse now…tax credits say I owe ££ (detail removed by moderator) 😖

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